Forgiving the UnforgiveableWritten by Lynne Kaska
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Step Four: Admit that injurer is sick During this process, it allows you to see person who has hurt you through a new pair of glasses. It allows you to have empathy for person rather than be angry with them. It truly is a heart-healer. When I admitted that person who abused me was just like a diabetic or someone who has cancer, it gave my heart satisfaction to really understand that reason for injury was because they were ill. It was at this point that I began healing process. Step Five: Look to see if YOU have a part This was another key area in process of forgiveness. It was important for me to make sure that my side of street was clean. The Twelve Step programs really push their members to clean up all of their wrongs. When I identified my part in my abuse, it was another step towards not allowing it to happen again and to taking away anger from what happened to me. Step Six: Putting it Behind Me The Lion King has a famous saying that I absolutely love. I'm not sure what character it was that said this, but he said, "You gotta put behind past you," rather than, "You gotta put past behind you." How true is it? If we want to move on with our lives, we must put past behind us. If I keep looking at yesterday, then I'm totally missing out on today. And when I am looking at something that happened 10 years ago, then how many today's have I missed. Step Seven: Choosing to Forgive This is probably hardest step in forgiveness. It is very empowering though to realize that we have a choice. We can either choose to allow our anger over past to control us or we can choose to forgive and move on so that we can have life that we've always longed for. When we are so angry and are carrying so much pain, I describe it as a backpack full of stones. In back pack are stones labeled anger, fear, jealousy, depression, etc.... How heavy is it to carry all of stones around with you? Aren't you ready to put them down yet? The only way for us to put down that backpack is by making choice to forgive. Are you ready to make that choice today? Author: Lynne Kaska copyright (C) May '05
My name is Lynne Kaska. I am currently in the process of coach certification. I believe that happiness and success are both a choice. Everything in life boils down to one thing: choices. Are you willing to make the choice to be happy, joyous and free. If you are ready to do the essential work to get to where you want to go in life, then I encourage you to email me to set up your complimentary coaching session to see if we can work together.
Fear of FlyingWritten by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.
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The woman had a big smile on her face rest of way down, even though we were still bouncing around.
Fear, whether of flying or of anything else, is always result of what you are telling yourself. Your fear is letting you know that you are off base in your thinking. If you then cover up your fear with an addiction, such as drinking on plane in order to get past fear, then you never deal with lie you are telling yourself that is causing fear.
The wounded part of us always feels afraid when we think we are out of control of something. This part of us, our mind, thinks it can know truth about things. But our minds are programmed with many false beliefs that cause much fear. Truth is not something we can access from our limited mind – it is something we have to open to. The thoughts of our mind will never make us feel safe and will certainly not give us control we seek. True safety lies in opening to Spirit and being guided by Truth. The paradox is that in releasing control to Spirit, we gain sense of control that comes from operating out of Truth.
The mind thinks it can create safety with some form of control. Yet true safety comes from being connected with Source of Truth.
Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?" She is the co-creator of the powerful Inner Bonding healing process. Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: http://www.innerbonding.com or firstname.lastname@example.org.