When we forgive someone it lifts a burden from us, we will feel lighter and more joyful. If person deliberately hurt us and we hang onto grudge they win again and again. Do you really want that? This is your life we are talking about. Don't you owe it to yourself to make it as happy and joyful as you can? Why destroy your life by a thoughtless act of another person. You are better than that. I know you are. And honestly best revenge is being happy.

Some people have mistaken belief that they have to hang onto pain so they will not let themselves be hurt again. This only makes for a life full of misery. Sure, they might not let anyone hurt them again but they will also be cutting themselves off from a lot of wonderful experiences. A better attitude to take is to learn from their experience and forgive. Then trust themselves that from a place of openness and wisdom that they will know what to do if they are ever faced with a similar experience.

If you want to forgive someone simply have intention of letting go of your hurt and forgiving them. Then sit quietly and flood green into your heart chakra. This may take minutes, hours, days or weeks. You might get rid of it and it may come back again. If so, start again. The feelings of hurt will pass and boy will you feel great. Just do it as often as you need to.

Spend five minutes twice a day flooding green in your heart chakra until you can think of person without pain. This does not mean that you have to have an abusive person in your life. You can forgive someone but not want any contact with them because you know that you are better off without them. This is valid and does not mean that you are holding a grudge.

You can forgive those that have passed away. However, if it is a long-term grudge be prepared for a bit of an emotional time while you do so.

You may feel guilty for not having forgiven them while they were still alive, or grief at their passing that you have not allowed yourself to feel before. This is an important part of process and just be willing to allow yourself to sit with pain. Keep working with heart chakra and these feelings will subside. The final step in process is to forgive yourself for not forgiving them when they were alive.

I was feeling pretty bad when I returned to my office, and then remembered I needed to go to bank. I went up to bank machine and there was $40.00 sitting in slot. Someone had forgotten to take it with them after they finished their transaction. They had also forgotten to take their bank slip. I took both out of machine and put them in my pocket while I did my own banking. Now I was dealing with moral dilemma of what I should do with found money. I so badly wanted to keep money as I am heavily in debt with all my credit cards almost maxed out. I tried rationalizing: The bank slip doesn't have account number on it so it's not like one can trace it but it did say that person had a balance of $195.00 which isn't very much.

I remembered how I felt when I once left $20.00 in bank machine myself and went back for it but it was gone.

I then decided to go into bank and leave $40.00 with a bank teller. While I was waiting in line, another lady came into bank and told me I left my card in bank machine so I went back to get it. Then she came back again saying now I'd left my bank slip in machine. This is how frazzled I was!

Anyways, I gave money to a bank teller with my business card and I am feeling much better.

I feel like Universe gave me an opportunity not only to redeem myself but also an opportunity to change my vibration after something I've done in past that I feel badly about.

Indeed! This client demonstrates wonderful way Law of Attraction works: Her dominant intention was to offer a high vibration so that she can attract more money and enjoy her life.

The Law of Attraction arranged an opportunity (the item from Radio Shack.) Her actions in first opportunity caused her vibration to drop, which didn't feel good. So she RESET her intention to feel good,and Law of Attraction sent her another opportunity to take actions that feel better.

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