Now take a few moments to reflect on bigger picture vision you have for your life. What would you like to accomplish first? What will bring you joy and fulfillment with your work, your family, and your personal time? What is essence of what you wish to experience in this upcoming year? When you have an idea of what it is you wish to create and who you want to "be," take some time to meditate or concentrate on developing your life theme. The right phrase for you may come to you immediately, or it may take some time to evolve.

Brief is Best

When phrase does reveal itself to you, try to keep it to a maximum of five words. Brief is better. Feel power of these concise life themes: "Let go. Rebuild. Move Forward. Growth and Independence. Balance and Follow-through. Connection. Stretch. Calm and Quiet." You might have to live with your life theme for a week before you know that it's one that will speak to you for next year. You will know when you've got it.

Get Started

Once your life theme is clear, write it down. Put it where you will see it every day as a reminder of where you are heading in 2005. Tell loved ones, friends and colleagues what your life theme is. The more often you say it and share more real it will become. Every time you make a decision large and small put it through your life theme filter. If your theme is "connection" say yes to building friendships, social invitations and neighborhood parties. If your theme is "adventure and fun" perhaps you say no that new pair of shoes and yes to signing up for a rock climbing course. The most surefire method to ensuring you live your life theme is to ask yourself every morning when you wake "what can I do today to experience my life theme." The key to success is to be intentional with your thoughts and actions on a daily basis. By living intentionally and with purpose you'll never feel need to make another New Year's resolution again.

Ask yourself, what means most to you? Wasting precious time being someone your not, or living your life true and clean? To me, it’s a no brainer, but to others who dislike themselves so much, this can be one of most daunting tasks ever.

Why is it so hard to be seen for who we really are?

When you’re taking on this false persona, you feel more secure because your natural persona, as you see it, is not worthy. You’ve clipped its beautiful wings and kept it in a cage so if it wanted to fly, it couldn’t, due to your own suppression.

The most painful thought imaginable is that of time wasted. Most of time, years can never be recouped. In addition, if change towards your natural personality is never achieved, your whole life just may be a lie.

Not only will you gain more respect from your family and peers, but more importantly, you will always respect yourself no matter where life may bring you. So make change, and don’t waste anymore life, it’s definitely not worth it

How would this look on your headstone? He lived his life as a lie, but what a great guy.

Don’t be that person. It’s never to late to make changes, no matter how difficult change is. Because being true to yourself as who you really are instead of what you think everyone wants you to be, is absolutely most self empowering life you could possibly lead.

Not only will you gain more respect from your family and peers, but more importantly, you will always respect yourself no matter where life may bring you. So make change, and don’t waste anymore life, it’s definitely not worth it.

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