5. Do special things just for them. Find out what others like. Is it cards, flowers, a foot rub, a dinner out? You may not like or want these same things and that's ok. Do something or give something they like. Make them feel special.

See how many of these you can practice in one week with special people in your life and watch intimacy in your relationships grow.

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

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When we decline a request, we do not have to go into a long explanation. Just say, "No." Be direct, be polite and don't apologize. It is OK to say "No" and it is all right not to have a reason. You do not have to have an excuse, alibi or anything else. It is ok just to say no and leave it at that.

Just say, "No" so that you can say, "Yes" to things you really want to do. For every "Yes" you say, you are saying "No" to something else. When you say, "Yes" to something you don't want to do, you actually say, "No" to what you do want to do. Remember, this is your life. Do you want to spend it doing things you don't want to do or by doing what brings you joy, happiness and contributes to your overall satisfaction?

Practice saying, "No" today. See how it feels not to commit to things you do not want to do and leave space for things you do want in your life.