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FEAR OF BEING SEEN AS PUSHY. You may think that you will turn people off if you are assertive and that if they want to talk to you, they will make
first move. If this is your line of thinking you will find yourself spending your time alone at
reception or meeting function and leaving without a single new connection. Being open, friendly and interested does not turn people off.
You will not come across as overly aggressive if you seek out
"approachable" people. These are
ones who are standing alone or who are speaking in groups of three or more. Two people talking to each other are not approachable because they may be having a private conversation and you would be interrupting.
THINKING THAT OTHER PEOPLE MAY NOT LIKE YOU. There is always
risk that
other person is not interested in you and doesn't want to meet or talk to you. It happens. If that is
case, don't take it personally. Nothing ventured is nothing gained. When you get a cold shoulder, smile, move on and say to yourself, "Next?"
HAVING YOUR INTENTIONS MISUNDERSTOOD. Approaching someone of
opposite sex to begin a conversation may seem more like flirting than networking. This is more of an issue for women than men. Women have an equal place in
work arena and need to make professional connections
same as men do. Women in business can no longer afford to hold back when there is opportunity at hand.
Neither men nor women will have their motives misinterpreted if they present themselves professionally in their attire and if they keep
conversation focused on business issues or topics that are not personal or private.
Whatever your stumbling blocks, face them before
next networking event and devise a personal plan for getting past them. Once you do, you will find yourself connecting with confidence and courtesy on every occasion and
results will be reflected in your bottom line.
(c) 2005, Lydia Ramsey. All rights in all media reserved.

Lydia Ramsey is a business etiquette expert, professional speaker and author of MANNERS THAT SELL - ADDING THE POLISH THAT BUILDS PROFITS. For more information about her programs, products and services, e-mail her at lydia@mannersthatsell.com or visit her web site http://www.mannersthatsell.com/