First Impressions

Written by Susan Dunn, M.A.

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5. Know yourself. The most important part of your homework. You need to know where your strengths are, what might throw you off, how you are perceived by others. There's an assessment you can take that tells you what impressions about you to correct for in an interview.
6. Appear organized. Notice I said appear. Being "organized" is a strength you may not have and it's not a sine qua non for success. But in this case, makerepparttar effort. Be sure papers aren't sticking outrepparttar 126274 side of your briefcase, that you can access your business card smoothly, etc. There's enough stress; get this part under control.
7. Assume a virtue if you have it not. Ah, Shakespeare. Well, you need to be yourself, but you also need to bend a little. If you're speaking to a group that you know are Democrats, at least don't talk Republican. Save it. Ifrepparttar 126275 prospective client insists their coach/doctor/PR professional must be "patient," bring out this part of you. Most of us have all traits available for accessing.
8. Compose yourself before you go in. Plan to get there early so you can compose yourself if you hadrepparttar 126276 usual trouble findingrepparttar 126277 place... sitter didn't show parking place and you had to walk a mile...inrepparttar 126278 rain...bad hair day...cut yourself shaving...allergies...fight with spouse...visiting in-laws...indigestion.
9. Don't choke. See my Top 10:
10. Remember, no matter how good you are, no matter how great your expertise, or what your position is, there are certain immutable laws inrepparttar 126279 universe, and one of them is that first impressions really do count!

Susan Dunn is a coach for personal and professional development, focusing on strengths, emotional intelligence and inner balance. Visit her on the web at

Intuition: An Emotional Intelligence Competency

Written by Susan Dunn, Coach

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Things we can’t describe, but we "know," come from our implicit memory. Our implicit memory ensures that “camouflaged learning” permeates out lives. Spoken language, for instance, is a confusing assortment of phonological and grammatical rules that we couldn’t possibly describe, yet we all learn to speak our native tongue. In fact, children are able to learn it without any formal instruction at all. Similarly, in learning foreign languages, it’s generally considered that “immersion” isrepparttar best way to attain fluency – spending your days with native speakers and just absorbing it. Considerrepparttar 126273 extent to which we intuit. In his book, "Language Instinct," Steven Pinker observes that we all ‘know’ that “thole, plast and flitch are not English words but they could be, whereas vlas, ptak, and nyip cannot be English.” Why? Well, just because, but wouldn’t you agree?

The advantages of intuition? It’s much quicker – and also surer – to use your intuition. You have a greater grasp on reality, as it were, when you don’t confuse things by bringing inrepparttar 126274 neocortex. "Reason," said Pascal, “isrepparttar 126275 slow and tortuous method by which those who do not knowrepparttar 126276 truth discover it.”

“There is guidance available to us at all times,” says Penny Peirce, “just belowI>repparttar 126277 surface of our logic, just after we stop pushing and striving, just before we jump to conclusions. By cultivatingrepparttar 126278 ability to pause and be comfortable with silence, and then by focusing steadily and listening forrepparttar 126279 first sounds or feelings, forrepparttar 126280 first impressions, you can help your intuition wake up suddenly and enthusiastically, as if from a long winter’s nap.”

How do you develop your intuition? One way is to learn to still your self-talk, what I refer to as “the Talking Head” – that constant yammering that goes on inside your head. Get centered. Quiet your thinking mind. Slow down and focus on one thing at a time. Listen. Practice.

“Although intuition is a natural resource,” says Nancy Rosanoff, an intuition trainer, “it functions best when developed and exercised. Like a muscle, intuition becomes strong, reliable, and precise when trained and put to use."

So what’srepparttar 126281 buzz about intuition? It’s coming into its own. It’s getting legitimate. Corporations are even hiring intuitionists to make decisions. I say it’s about time, because it’s a much surer way to make a decision than are logic and reason; an important decision that is. How much data would be too much to know aboutrepparttar 126282 woman you’re going to be leaving your baby with all day? Aboutrepparttar 126283 man you’re considering marrying? At some pointrepparttar 126284 data ends, and you make a decision based on your feelings. Do you doubt this? Oliver Wendell Holmes, Chief Justice ofrepparttar 126285 Supreme Court, said that 90% ofrepparttar 126286 decisions at his level were emotional. He just rationalized them afterwards. As we all have done.

“In small matters, userepparttar 126287 head,” said Freud, “and in large matters,repparttar 126288 heart.” And that's intuition!

Susan Dunn is a personal and professional development coach specializing in emotional intelligence. You can visit her on the web at

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