Fire Up Your Enthusiasm!

Written by Donald Schnell

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Stay inrepparttar Now

Affirmations are more effective when stated inrepparttar 126239 present tense. For example; "I now have a wonderful job." Avoid affirming something inrepparttar 126240 future tense, e.g. "I am going to have a wonderful job" orrepparttar 126241 results will always be waiting to happen.

Userepparttar 126242 “Power of Positive Thinking”

Please create your affirmations withrepparttar 126243 most positive words that you can while avoiding negative statements. Affirm what you do want, rather than what you don't want. For example; "I don't want to smoke." This is a negative statement. Instead affirm; "I now enjoy being a nonsmoker." This statement is a more powerful expression because it is dynamically positive and reinforces your desired goal.

KISS: Keep it Simple and Specific

Short affirmations are easy to say, and have a far greater impact at a subconscious level than those which are long and wordy. Keeping them specific and torepparttar 126244 point adds power asrepparttar 126245 idea is uncluttered by elements.

Repeat your affirmation frequently

The importance of repetition cannot be overemphasized. It imprintsrepparttar 126246 affirmation into your subconscious mind.

Make them Emotional

Get involved, be passionate, use your emotions. Think carefully aboutrepparttar 126247 meaning ofrepparttar 126248 words as you repeat them rather than typing or saying them.

Don't be a Quitter

Continued effort allows you to achieve results much sooner than practicing affirmations sporadically.

Why not take 7 minutes and begin to identify one area of your life that needs improving? Think of an appropriate affirmation and then begin to use it throughout your day.

Enthusiastically yours,

Donald Schnell

******************************************** Dr. Donald Schnell co- founded with Marilyn Diamond of Fit For Life, the Spiritual Java Diet Coaching Program, that is transforming thousands. The New Spiritual Diet, Incredible Value, One on One coaching Amazing Results. or email: Donald Schnell is the author of The Initiation. Free Motivational Newsletter, The Buzz

Telling the Truth…or Not

Written by Margaret Paul, Ph.D.

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So, not only are we often afraid of dealing with another's anger, but we may be even more afraid ofrepparttar lonely feeling of being uncared for. Until we are willing to knowrepparttar 126238 truth of whether or notrepparttar 126239 other person really does care about what is important to us, we may avoid speaking our truth.

However, when we withhold our truth to avoid conflict and avoid feeling uncared for by another,repparttar 126240 consequence is that we feel alone and maybe depressed because we are not caring about ourselves. When we don't stand up for ourselves, we end up feeling unimportant, regardless of how others treat us. We cannot ignore ourselves and feel good inside.

The question we need to ask ourselves is, "Are we willing to give ourselves up to avoid losing others, or are we willing to lose others rather than lose ourselves?" I have found that losing myself is never worth it. If I lose others as a result of speaking my truth, then I have to acceptrepparttar 126241 truth that those people never had my highest good at heart anyway. People who care about my highest good applaud me when I speakrepparttar 126242 truth that supports my highest good. People who care about me support me in living my truth. Those who just want to use me in some way will get angry or hurt at my truth, and that lets me knowrepparttar 126243 truth about their intent.

Therefore, we have to be willing to know another's truth regarding whether or not that person really cares about us in order to tell our heartfelt truth. Let's say that you say to your partner, "It is not tolerable for me to be around you when you are drinking. I feel shut out and disconnected from you when you drink. It is just too lonely to be with you when you are drinking." If alcohol is more important to your partner than you are, thenrepparttar 126244 response is likely to be, "That's your problem, not mine. Stop blaming me for your feelings. Stop trying to control me!" If you are more important to your partner than alcohol, then your partner will addressrepparttar 126245 issue and get some help withrepparttar 126246 problem. The question is, do you want to knowrepparttar 126247 reality ofrepparttar 126248 situation? Are you prepared to take loving action for yourself if you discover that your partner really doesn't care aboutrepparttar 126249 effect his or her behavior is having on you?

You will haverepparttar 126250 courage to speak your truth when you haverepparttar 126251 courage to knowrepparttar 126252 truth about any given relationship. What if you say to your best friend, "I often feel judged by you and it doesn't feel good," and your best friend gets defensive and tells you it's all your problem. What are you going to do if your best friend consistently responds in an uncaring way? Are you willing to lose someone whom you have believed was your best friend, or are you going to avoid tellingrepparttar 126253 truth to avoid knowingrepparttar 126254 truth? Are you willing to feelrepparttar 126255 loneliness if you find out that someone you thought cared really doesn't, or do you want to go on pretending that real caring exists with that person?

It take great courage to tellrepparttar 126256 truth and discoverrepparttar 126257 truth. We often kid ourselves into thinking that avoiding others anger and hurt is a loving thing to do. We justify our behavior by telling ourselves that it's just that we don't want to hurt or upset others, or that we just don't want to deal with another's hurt or anger. Yet avoidance may not be loving to ourselves or others. Are you willing to sacrificing your own integrity to avoidrepparttar 126258 pain of conflict and loneliness? To me, nothing is worth a loss of integrity, not evenrepparttar 126259 loss of another.

When you really tune into how you feel when you withhold your truth to protect yourself from conflict and loneliness, you will discover that honoring yourself by telling your truth, without blame or judgment, is deeply empowering. You will feel on top of repparttar 126260 world when you finally haverepparttar 126261 courage to speak your heartfelt truth when your intent is to support your own and others' highest good. Margaret Paul, Ph.D. isrepparttar 126262 best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: or

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. is the best-selling author and co-author of eight books, including "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By You?", "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By My Kids?", "Healing Your Aloneness","Inner Bonding", and "Do I Have To Give Up Me To Be Loved By God?" Visit her web site for a FREE Inner Bonding course: or

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