-6 drops Sandalwood -7 drops Cypress -3 drops Helycrisum -3 drops Juniper Anoint third eye area, temples, neck, solar plexus and sacrum. Pour a few drops into your warm bath water and soak for at least 15 minutes. Pour a few drops into palm of your hands and inhale deeply. ******** Embodying Self-Love ******** This aromatic blend brings an appreciation of self-nurturing and self love while embodying your true essence with much compassion, unconditional love and enlightenment. After using aromatic blend on a regular basis, you will feel healthily detached from a need for validation from others because you will have gained an understanding that all your needs and wants should first be fulfilled from within.

-3 drops Rose otto -2 drops Jasmine otto -4 drops Ylang Ylang -4 drops Frankincense Anoint heart chakra, solar plexus and abdomen. Pour a few drops into your warm bath water and soak for at least 15 minutes. Pour a few drops into palm of your hands and inhale deeply. ******** Building Inner Strength ******** This aromatic blend enhances inner strength, faith and courage. It also helps to develop a healthy sense of independence by disconnecting yourself from negative attachments. After using this aromatic blend on a regular basis, you will be able to become more assertive and clear about your needs and wants.

-7 drops Rosemary -5 drops Cedarwood -6 drops St- John's Wort To learn more about essential oils used in these blends, visit http://www.aromalchemy.com/aromatherapy/ouroils.html

In Good Health, Francoise Rapp http://www.aromalchemy.com

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To create change, make your requests clearly, gently and as soon as you become aware of need. Your requests are more likely to be granted. However, if they are not granted, you cannot demand change.

Making an effective request is definitely a skill. To learn this skill, please read next week's newsletter.

School of Thought III: ---------------------- Produce change at any cost or any way you can. Hold back no weapon in your arsenal. Manipulation, nagging, begging, threatening are all fair game. Don't ever give up because, after all, change is good for your partner.

The Alternative: ---------------- When you request change from your partner to further growth and development, it is often very good for him/her. However, any underhanded attempt will be met with resistance and anger. You will not get change. In fact, things may get worse.

Your alternative is to ask clearly and openly, with love, for what you want. Again, to learn how to do this read next week's newsletter.

If change is something your partner wants for himself or herself, offer support in creating it. Do this for as long as it takes to create change. If answer is no, accept it and deal with consequences, even if consequence leads to end of relationship.

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

(c) Rinatta Paries, 1998-2002. Do you know how to attract your ideal mate? Do you know how to build a fulfilling relationship, or how to reinvent yours to meet your needs? Relationship Coach Rinatta Paries can teach you skills and techniques to attract and sustain long-term, healthy partnerships. Visit www.WhatItTakes.com where you'll find quizzes, classes, advice and a free weekly ezine. Become a "true love magnet(tm)!"