3 - Treat yourself to a weekly spa treatment. Many of these you can do at home yourself such as facials, body polishes, manicures, and/or pedicures.

4 - Invite your girlfriends over for a spa party. There are many companies that are now bringing spa experience into customer’s homes and offices. Do an internet search on spa parties and contact ones that interest you.

5 - Light a lavender candle or spray a lavender scented mist in your “ME” area during your scheduled “ME” time. Lavender helps to create a calming and uplifting effect.

By following above listed suggestions you will in no time begin to feel de-stressed and re-energized.

Q: For example? A: Three leading questions that send off good clear signals are “How do you feel about pre-marital sex?” and “How do you feel about traditional gender roles?” and “Are you willing to relocate?” These give a lot of information about what person is interested in. Ask yourself these questions, and there’s no right or wrong answer, it’s simply what you’re after: You’ll quickly learn when they ask XX question, press delete button.

Q: How can I maximize safety? A: Exercise normal caution. Some of sites give you safety rules. Read them. Common sense would tell you to get to know someone before you invite them into your private email or home. When you do agree to meet with someone, make it a public place in daytime, go in your own car, and let someone else know where you’re going. Use same precautions you would anywhere else.

A: What should I avoid doing? A: That you’ll learn through experience, aside from safety precautions already listed. When something goes poorly, write it down and don’t do it again!

Q: Should I try someone who lives far away? A: One of you has to have some money, that’s for sure. Most sites let you roam world for a mate, if you’re so-inclined. If you’re after long-term commitment, are you willing to relocate? Is he? How are your (plural) finances? LD romances require a lot of money and flexibility. You can easily run up a $700 phone bill in a month before you even get to plane tickets.

Q: What else should I check for? A: His pace should match yours. Do you like a man who asks permission to call you after 2 months or corresponding, or someone who looks your number up on Internet and calls you next day? Do you want someone who tells you right away they’re an alcoholic in recovery or have been divorced 3 times or have a $300,000 home in Bahamas? Their pace of revealing both their strengths and faults should match your tastes. Are they lying? Is she desperate and needy? Only time will tell. Take your time.

Q: What if it doesn’t work out when we meet in person? A: Sometimes it won’t. If you’re mostly motivated by appearance and “chemistry,” it can be a shock. Everyone’s going to put their best photo on Internet and some people are more photogenic than others. If you’re more after internal qualities, those you will have experienced and they should still be there. Plan your meeting so there’s an easy escape-route. If they’re in your town and you meet for lunch, how long can an hour be? If you meet in San Francisco for a weekend, even if you don’t hit it off for romance, you can still have a good time and part amicably.

Q: Is it just for weirdos? A: Not at all. I know personally people who met and married through an Internet dating service. It’s confusing at first but you’ll hit learning curve. Internet dating is a viable option in today’s world. There are plenty of good people using sites. They may live in rural locations, have little time to get out, prefer to get to know someone in writing, or any number of legitimate reasons. If you’re serious about dating, why not try all options? Use your head and good luck!