Keep a list of possible activities. Have a place to keep information such as brochures, maps, and visitors' guides. Set up folders in your computer for storing information you have found online. Use Notepad to copy and paste just what is of interest to you. The File menu of most web browsers has a Save As command that can be used to save an entire web page.

Be open to any suggestions and preferences your partner has to offer. Try to be sensitive to his/her tastes and interests. Give almost as much importance to his/her enjoyment of date as your own enjoyment. After all, you probably won't enjoy date if your partner doesn't.

Try to choose activities that give enough opportunities for communication. Conversation and comments you and your date make to each other are often most important part of date. Couples need to find out each other's values and interests. Couples need reassurance and stimulation of each other's ideas. Pursue your own interests. Being passionate about something makes you more interesting. Revive an old dream lurking in your memory. Or pursue a recent fantasy. What you do and where you go on a date is not so critical if person you are spending time with is interesting and caring. Finally, stay informed to stay interesting. Keep up with current events and issues. Listen to news and news commentary programs. One good source I like is web sites of National Public Radio.

After you have defined your goals and made sure they are realistic, you can then start looking at what things you need to do to reach each goal. Break goal down into easy to accomplish "steps". By working toward your goals with steps, you can accomplish something every day that will move you closer to your goal without it seeming so overwhelming. Before you know it, you will be staring your goal straight in face!

Keep in mind that when we fail to reach a particular goal, we must first understand why we failed. It may very well have been something out of our immediate control that caused failure. We also need to remember that even in failure we have succeeded. We succeeded in learning. Learning what NOT to do is just as important than learning what TO do. It reminds me of mixing. When you need a little more high end it's always better to drop some of low end rather than boost high end. It's a negative move that brings a positive result. Always be willing to learn from process. Remember....without failure there is NO success!!