"The rule of friendship means there should be mutual sympathy between them, each supplying what other lacks and trying to benefit other, always using friendly and sincere words." - Buddha (BC)

As a friend, try to let an unfavorable incident or remark fly right over top of your head. We all blurt out something stupid or do something regrettable at times, and it's so nice when other acts as if it never happened. This is a dear friend.

"I destroy my enemy when I make him my friend" - Abe Lincoln (1809-1865)

Now I don’t claim to be an authority when it comes to raising children but I’ve learned a few things from my own personal experiences--or did I really mean to say, tribulations. From my observations, it would appear that raising children is synonymous with raising your voice. Fortunately there is always help available, if you’ll just buy latest book some expert wrote! Now, I’m not against ‘experts’ but have you ever noticed that they don’t always agree? Maybe they should all get together and read each other’s books? This way you’d only have to read one. I believe in consulting books and getting information but it always has to be in context of common sense. After all, who really knows you’re child better than you?

Relating experiences about childraising doesn’t necessarily have to described in technical terms nor does it require a string of degrees to understand. In fact, last time I checked, they don’t even give out a certificate for cleaning bathroom floor after a sick child threw up at 3:00 A.M. in morning. Not even when you had to be at work at 6:30 same day. If they do, then I want mine! No, I didn’t get a diploma to hang on my wall nor did I get to walk across a stage with one of those square hats and a tassel.

In our primordial state, we balanced our feelings of frustration or anger by striking out in retribution against whatever caused it. But in family situation there is no foe to vanquish. So against our invisible feelings of frustration, we sometimes subconsciously designate someone visible to be foe. When this happens, we feel vindicated by subjecting our children or our spouse to being object of our anger. This type of reaction only exacerbates a situation where others are depending on you to react in a mature manner.

In summary, you should correct your children because they need it, not because you’re angry or lost your patience. Instead of lashing out in frustration against your spouse, seek their support. In arena of conflict and resolution, there is no foe unless you create one. But there is one consolation. Eventually you will get even with your children. Because one day they will have children of their own. And it will be their turn to appreciate you.

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Don't know anything about raising children? Your children will teach you! The only problem is that by time you've learned all you need to know, kids are grown.

Losing your temper is most counterproductive thing you can do as a parent

sometimes parents will skip over instruction that children need and go straight to punishment phase

No parent relishes thought of having to discipline their children so we generally procrastinate doing so until we’re about to lose control. And that’s precisely when we need it most.

Raising children shouldn’t be synonymous with raising your voice. In arena of conflict and resolution, there is no foe unless you create one.