Written by Kay L. Schalgel

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Keeping a journal helps keep your thoughts and fears, safe and orderly, untilrepparttar time comes that you will know what you want to do with them. You may sit down to journal about how angry or frustrated you are at a particular situation. Afterwards, lo and behold you find that you anger is actually stemming from something totally different. That is what journaling is for. It's an avenue for your subconscious to speak. Where you are able to sort out you thoughts and feelings and get torepparttar 135022 core of what you're really feeling and thinking. I’ve heard so many people say, “but what am I going to write in it?” That’srepparttar 135023 beauty of it. You can write down anything that comes to mind. The trick isn’t inrepparttar 135024 writing butrepparttar 135025 attempt to put down on paper some ofrepparttar 135026 things you have held and let build up for so long. You don’t have to be a “writer” to write. There have been days whenrepparttar 135027 only entry in my journal is, “I can’t think of anything to write about.” Those days, however, become farther and further between as you become more familiar and feel more comfortable writing down whatever it is that you’re thinking. It doesn’t have to be good or even make sense. You are giving yourself a physical non-threatening way to begin your inner dialogue. It goes without saying that you keep this journal private and in a place where only you can read it, until you can decide whether or not to share it, burn it, or whatever you want to do with it.

The whole point of this conversation is that with help you can come to a point thatrepparttar 135028 past is no longer so threatening. That many of us who finally tookrepparttar 135029 “bull byrepparttar 135030 horns” and decided to face our past head on; found to our surprise that we could control our reaction to it. We could stop being afraid. We still haverepparttar 135031 rest of our lives ahead of us, let’s get moving toward that more healthy future than constantly fearingrepparttar 135032 past. We only have today---the past is just that---inrepparttar 135033 past---tomorrow is a mystery in which all kinds of miracles could unfold if we just let them. We want to train ourselves just as an athlete would for their hardest race, to be strong and healthy to make today and tomorrow count for something. We are no longer victims. we are survivors and we should give ourselvesrepparttar 135034 respect that as survivors we deserve. It isn’trepparttar 135035 goal, or hoping that we’ll be ok in a decade or so. This may sound harsh but unfortunately it isrepparttar 135036 truth. Everyday, most of us haverepparttar 135037 capacity to make choices whether to continue to obsess helpless onrepparttar 135038 past without making any changes or seeing any results. We also can make choices to work toward positive goals and ways to work more inrepparttar 135039 present and towardrepparttar 135040 future, dealing withrepparttar 135041 past as quickly and effectively when it tries to interfere with our onward path. It’srepparttar 135042 journey that counts and we need to learn to appreciate and enjoyrepparttar 135043 journey.

Kay L. Schlagel 4/19/05 www.mdmkay.blogspot.com

I've lived most of my life in Nebraska. My educational history is in the field of nursing with over ten years of registered nursing before having to retire to due complications from childhood injuries. I'm an artist/writer who primarily writes for children. I have also writen articles and one book, for women's issues such as abuse, MPD/DID..etc. As an artist I am proficient with acrylic, oil, and some digital arts.

All In The Mind

Written by Alvin Poh

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I was letting myself become a “quitter”. And it was because of a simple fact: I was letting negativity enter my thoughts. I was letting them permeate and grow. I was encouraging myself to takerepparttar easy way out.

As I pushed myself and tried to move on, I started thinking about this. The funny thing was that, after a while, I realised that when I wasn’t paying that much attention to my run –it was actually getting easier! Meanwhile, I came up with this line that describedrepparttar 134998 realisation that I just had:

"In life, if you give yourself a concession, you'd take it."

If you focus on doing something, and keep telling yourself that you can do it, you'd more likely than not succeed. If you let even just a wee bit of doubt creep in, you'll soon start to be complacent and you'll take whatever easy way out your mind's offering you.

Case Study 1: The Runner

You are running your third round onrepparttar 134999 running track. You intend to complete six rounds, your normal distance. You feel great still. You push yourself, telling yourself that you can do it, that you can beat your previous time. But suddenly, you start to think about why this is so important to you. It's like a floodgate's been open from this point onwards. You no longer tell yourself that you can do it, but ask yourself why you should do it. You begin to slow down. You are more observant ofrepparttar 135000 pain in your legs andrepparttar 135001 difficulty you have breathing. Soon, you even start to harbour thoughts of cutting your run down to only five rounds, because "what's one round less".

Case Study 2: The Student

You are three days away from your exam. You have your book out in front of you, and you have to study a total of nine chapters. You've completed two chapters, and you intend to finish at least five atrepparttar 135002 end ofrepparttar 135003 day. You know you haverepparttar 135004 determination to do so, and you begin reading through chapter three. After five pages, your mind starts to wander. You start pondering. You think about how tired you are, and you soon convince yourself that it's true. You yawn. You think about how long three days is, and figure that it's too much time for just seven chapters. You start wondering why you are studying so soon. Your eyes begin to feel heavy. You are tired. You decide to take a nap, and go to sleep for two hours, and you do so.

That's why I think letting yourself even think of a concession is dangerous. If you are really intent on doing something, you shouldn't be thinking of anything else. When you start to let your mind drift and think aboutrepparttar 135005 easy way out, you immediately start losing your determination, drastically. I thinkrepparttar 135006 best way to overcome this is by instantly stop, and remind yourself of your true goals and objectives.

Alvin Poh has been specialising in web development, content distribution, advertising and marketing strategies since 1995. More of his articles can be found at http://www.xodes.com/.

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