Examples of Emotional Intelligence from Popular Songs

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, cEQc, The EQ Coach

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5. The Baptism of Jesse Taylor (The Oak Ridge Boys) / Social Responsibility, Self-Management, Authenticity

From now on Nancy Taylor can proudly speak to neighbors and tell them how much Jesse took up with little Jim. Now Jimmy’s got a Daddy, and Jesse’s got a family, and Franklin County’s got a lot more man.

6. Rhythm Guitar (The Oak Ridge Boys) / Interpersonal Skills, Teamwork

He’s written a song about what’s gone wrong, and I’m singin’ it to you now. Nobody wants to play rhythm guitar behind Jesus, Everybody wants to berepparttar lead singer inrepparttar 126183 band. It's hard to get a bead on what's divine, when everybody's pushin' forrepparttar 126184 head ofrepparttar 126185 line.

7. He’s Gonna Smile on Me (The Oak Ridge Boys) / Resilience, bouncing back and retaining hope and trust through adversity

I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth. Often there were times when I had to go without. I’ve been called a fool, and used just like a tool, but I still believe inrepparttar 126186 Golden Rule. And right now I’m so happy as I can be.

8. Tell Him (The Exciters) / Communication, Verbal and Nonverbal

Take his hand in yours and tell him that you’re never gonna leave him. Tell him, tell him, tell him, tell him right now.

9. Rose-Colored Glasses (Jon Conlee) / Learned Optimism, which is not always reality-based

These rose-colored glasses that I’m lookin’ through, show onlyrepparttar 126187 beauty, ‘cause they hide allrepparttar 126188 truth, and they let me hold on torepparttar 126189 good times,repparttar 126190 good lines,repparttar 126191 ones I used to hear when I held you. And they keep me from feelin’ so cheated, defeated, when reflections in your eyes show me a fool … these rose-colored glasses …I’ll just keep on hopin’, believin’ that maybe by countingrepparttar 126192 many times I’ve tried, you’ll believe me when I say I love you, and I’ll lay these rose-colored glasses aside.

10. Come a Little Bit Closer (Jay andrepparttar 126193 Americans) /repparttar 126194 three Fs – fight, flight or, canoodle ? (fromrepparttar 126195 reptilian brain comes those powerful ones -- territorial defense, aggression, violence, lust and fear)

She was sitting there giving me looks that made my mouth water, so I started walking her way. She belonged to that man Jose, and I knew, yes I knew, I should leave, but then I heard her say, “Come a little bit closer, you’re my kinda man, so big and so strong, come a little bit closer, I’m all alone andrepparttar 126196 night is so long." We started to dance, in my arms she looked so inviting, and I just couldn’t resist just one little kiss so exciting. Then I heardrepparttar 126197 guitar player say "Vamoos, Jose'’s on his way," and I knew, yes I knew I should run, but then I heard her say ...

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The Tiger & the Tiger Within: Roy Horn and Montecore

Written by Susan Dunn, MA Clinical Psychology, cEQc, The EQ Coach™

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To this, we evolvedrepparttar neocortex,repparttar 126182 crowning glory ofrepparttar 126183 homo sapiens. Or is it? Magnificent as it may be, it has its limitations. The lower brain will always rule, emotions will always take precedence, because they’re necessary for survival. When we experience fear – and in today’s world our fear can be totally symbolic (your boss yelling at you) – we get “hijacked.” We are “flooded” with emotion which is specifically designed to shut down our “thinking” (our ability to reason) and we act, i.e., we act without thinking.

We are constantly at risk ofrepparttar 126184 tiger within us becoming confused and primitive, like Montecore, and doing something we would not ordinarily do.

Montecore has been performing for many years. Something went awry, something was different, and he reverted to self-preservation tactics, by all reports. Inrepparttar 126185 fight or flight, he decided not to attack anyone, but to get himself and Roy to safety. If he attacked Roy,repparttar 126186 same principle applies and we will never really know.

Something emotional happened, and among mammals, emotions are contagious. You know this if you’ve been in a newspaper officerepparttar 126187 day they announced it was closing, or been around when someone got chastised in public.

Was it something with Roy,repparttar 126188 same thing that caused this magnificent physical specimen to slip and fall? His birthday? Wondering, as I do, whyrepparttar 126189 fascination withrepparttar 126190 “big hair.” (How many friends of mine have told me their cats love to lick hair-sprayed hair… or did it look like “fur” to Montecore?) Was he overly tired and less able to concentrate – having celebrated his birthday, or being about to? Was he preoccupied with thoughts ofrepparttar 126191 Big 6-0 onrepparttar 126192 horizon?

When Roy fell, it was something Montecore had never seen happen on stage before. If he was bonded with Roy, he may have feared for Roy, who knows. But it was change – big change – that thing that throws all of us. Thenrepparttar 126193 stage hands rushed out, more commotion … fear. One reverts. Bad things can happen. We can hurt people we love. We can hurt ourselves.

Prey as we are torepparttar 126194 tiger within, all we can do is be aware, and to learn to manage. This is Emotional Intelligence. And this, Roy understood about his beloved tiger. It wasn’t Montecore’s “fault”…nor do we routinely “blame” animals, lacking a neocortex as they do.

However, in regards to humans, we continue to battle this out inrepparttar 126195 courts, and in our own hearts and minds. It is for sure we never want that to be said about us. That “I didn’t mean to kill her, I love her,” or “I don’t know what came over me,” or “That wasn’t like me.”

We are as capable of as serious injury to others as Montecore is, and when we disable our neocortex, we are left withrepparttar 126196 same equipment Montecore has.

Our prayers are for all concerned, includingrepparttar 126197 show’s workers, described as “family,” who must also cope with possibly losing their jobs, another EQ dilemma. Because we are humans, our brains are often at odds with one another and we suffer conflict, guilt and shame.

As one worker said inrepparttar 126198 news, it was awful to be worrying about herself at that time, but she was a single mother and it was her job. Let us sayrepparttar 126199 means of preservation for herself and her children. We must keep learning about our emotions. As Childre and Martin say, “The emotional frontier is trulyrepparttar 126200 next frontier to conquer in human understanding. The opportunity we face now … is to develop our emotional potential and accelerate rather dramatically into a new state of being.”

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“Look forrepparttar 126201 magic that is around you in nature, flowers, and allrepparttar 126202 animals that share this planet with us.” Roy Horn

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