What became clear was enormous resistance most of us have to change and how much suffering it causes in our lives.

Is your first impulse to avoid change or to resist endings and hold on to something longer than is healthy or useful?

Here is a practice that helps me make friends with endings and change:

1. Start by looking into your past. Can you honestly say that any change you’ve made didn’t leave you in a better place than you imagined? By realizing this you will build positive evidence that change is most often a good thing.

2. Next, take an inventory of what you are afraid to let go of. What do you think you might lose by ending or changing your situation? You might be right, AND, by bringing what you fear into light you can more realistically evaluate if it is a true consideration or simply a fear.

3. Now, look at what you are making change mean. For example, “I’m a failure at relationships”, I’ll never be satisfied with any job, I’ll regret…” Ask yourself and see if these self-defeating statements are really true.

4. Finally, make a list of all possible benefits to be gained by making change. Also consider how this change could benefit those in your world. If you were happier or less stressed, what would ripple effect be?

By using this practice I let go of my business affiliation. I took a deep breath and moved on. Within about two weeks I had a new opportunity full of promise and excitement drop into my lap.

I’m learning to appreciate change and endings much in way I find colors of fall leaves beautiful. The dying of leaves produces breathtaking color. Without it there would be no chance of birth and new beginnings in spring.

Fall. Bring it on. I wouldn’t miss it for world.

It’s YOUR life…imagine possibilities!

Not ‘can’ be shaped, not ‘might’ be shaped, but *will* be shaped!

This is great news! It means that when you come across a circumstance in your life that you don’t like, you can trace back to a decision you made in past, and create thoughts and actions which will forge a different circumstance that you *do* like.

Sounds a bit too glib and easy? Well hold fire, because I didn’t say it was easy! It isn’t always easy, in fact sometimes it’s far from it, but it is very a empowering change of ideology.

Here’s a just a couple of benefits of accepting responsibility for your life…

Firstly, you will begin to erase ‘blame’ from your vocabulary. It’s a very negative energy, and removing it will leave more room for positive.

Secondly, speaking of positive, you will be more able to appreciate good things you have, good choices you made, and you’ll also be able to look forward with enthusiasm, knowing that you are in charge of your future, so why not mould it to one you really desire?