KEY POINT

Many people with very high IQs (cognitive intelligence) do poorly in work and relationships because they have low EQs (emotional intelligence). They sabotage themselves because they can't manage their own emotions or those of other people, and they sabotage projects because they may have all logical, rational and analytical “answers,” but they don’t have “soft” skills to move a project forward.

BENEFITS

Emotional intelligence accounts for more success and happiness in life than intellectual intelligence.

RELATED DESTINCTIONS

·Soft skills vs. Hard skills ·Knowing people v. Knowing facts ·Thinking and feeling v. Thinking only

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You expect it to happen and will participate in making it happen vs. You wish it will but do nothing about it

EXAMPLE

Nels went after promotion at work. He was determined to make it happen, and used his Intentionality. He made sure others knew of his contributions. He worked hard on his emotional intelligence. He did necessary politicking, and he thought continually of what else he could do to make it happen. He consulted with his EQ coach for guidance. He made it his goal for an entire year to make this happen. He took extra training, and enrolled in a night college course that fleshed out his curriculum vitae. It is small wonder he was given promotion, and a bonus.

Eduardo wanted promotion at work and figured that his work and good record would be obvious to those who would be making promotion. Aside from that, he didn't know what else he could do but wait and see. He had a good record, got along well enough, and had been there a long time. Even though he'd never been given a promotion, he hoped this would be time, that time would be on his side, and he did nothing out of ordinary to make it happen. He mentioned to his wife he’d like to get promotion, and she gave him some ideas, but he ignored them. He mentioned it to a friend, who suggested he hire a coach. Eduardo ignored this good advice. He just kept hoping it would happen, as year after year went by. It became a case of “wishful thinking.”

KEY POINT

"There is a big difference in wanting to and willing to." ~ Bear Bryant, Coach, University of Alabama, Roll Tide!

BENEFITS

Willing something to happen means you are using Emotional Intelligence competency of Intentionality. You mean what you say and you say what you mean, and you do what it takes to bring about results.

RELATED DISTINCTIONS

Doing vs. Trying Focus vs. Vagueness Steering vs. Drifting Swimming vs. Treading Water