Studying Emotional Intelligence teaches you how. These things can be learned.

I read on someone’s website other day that EQ is hard to learn. On contrary, I find most clients pick it up quickly because it’s such a relief. “No one ever explained that to me,”they say, or “Now I get it.” These competencies are things we can always improve throughout our lifetime, however most people see immediate positive results. The point is to set train on tracks so it can start rolling.

EQ is such a good system, I had a client in Abu Dhabi I worked with by phone, instant message and email who wrote me, after just 3 months: Since I started learning emotional intelligence, I have noticed following positive changes:

1.I am more patient in dealing with angry people. 2.The ability to empathize with others helps in being able to receive love from mothers 3.I get in less fights in conversations 4.It is easier for me to solve problems

Lulwa, who gave me permission to quote her, may go on to increase proficiency in different areas, but she’s already receiving benefits in her life from what she learned in just a few weeks. Undoubtedly she will improve, because she has foundation in place and she’s getting kinds of rewards that fuel motivation. Why would you stop doing something that makes it easier for you to solve problems? Emotional Intelligence teaches you ways to make your life work better. It can be learned. You can get immediate results, and then continue improving as you apply fundamentals you’ve learned to new experiences.

If you’re female, ask that coach about jewelry. I was so grateful to mentor who told me when I attended my first XX conference that women in that profession in that town would be “draped in jewelry, rings, bracelets, necklaces earrings, toe rings, naval rings …” Of course I would like to know opposite, too. Why? Well, it’s not cool to sit down to a business dinner in Seattle and ask for iced tea. If you know what I mean. Oh, you haven’t done that? Let me tell you what happens. Everyone’s head jerks toward you. Then they look away. The waiter stammers and shifts from foot to foot. You realize immediately there is no iced tea in this town. But waiter won’t let it go. “I’ll brew some tea,” he says, “and bring you a glass of ice.” “Or just shoot me,” I’m thinking. Then he adds, “Is that what iced tea is like?” Everyone is still looking at ceiling.

ASK THE COACH

Your answers are only as good as your questions. Here’s a good question to ask that coach: “What will I wish I’d brought with me that I won’t think of.” That will trigger “tourist” mindset in your resource person. Oh things I’ve wished I’d brought. ·A well broken in pair of sandals for my Caribbean cruise ·A bathing suit for my December trip to Chicago. Of course hotel had a hot tub. They all do. ·A pair of comfortable heels each time I’ve given a presentation. Why do I fool myself? ·Slacks with elastic waistline for cruises ·Something Tencel for long trips ·The black Pashmina shawl that works with everything. Why do I leave it in back of my closet? ·Something for rain. It rains when you go somewhere else. You can go to dollar store and buy what amounts to disposable ponchos and head covers. (Great for touring Russia in summer or Seattle nearly any time). ·Something really cute for vacations. You think you want to go funky, but then you see someone in a smashing linen matching outfit, and there you are, buying something cute in hotel store with a price tag that isn’t cute at all. ·An evening bag. With an evening bag you can get by with that same black Tencel skirt … you know what I mean. ·Jeans. Dry cleaned and starched. ·Sensible shoes. Oh was I mad when they wouldn’t let me rent a motorbike on Grand Cayman with my thong sandals, and heels back in my room wouldn’t have made cut either. ·That thing that’s hanging on back of your chair if you’re in an office right now. You know what I mean. Bring it along for when you get cold which could be anywhere, any time. Find out what you need to know and master fundamentals so you don’t have to think about what you’ve got on!