Eight simple anger management tips

Written by David Leonhardt

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Ask yourself this question: "Did that person do this to me on purpose?" In many cases, you will see that they were just careless or in a rush, and really did not mean you any harm.

Try counting to ten before saying anything. This may not addressrepparttar anger directly, but it can minimizerepparttar 126246 damage you will do while angry.

Try some "new and improved" variations of counting to ten. For instance, try counting to ten with a deep slow breathe in between each number. Deep breathing -- from your diaphragm -- helps people relax.

Or try pacing your numbers as you count. The old "one-steamboat-two-steamboat, etc." trick seems kind of lame to me. Steamboats are notrepparttar 126247 best devices to reduce your steam. How about "One-chocolate-ice-cream-two-chocolate-ice-cream", or use something else that you find either pleasant or humorous.

Visualize a relaxing experience. Close your eyes, and travel there in your mind. Make it your stress-free oasis.

One thing I do not recommend is "venting" your anger. Sure, a couple swift blows to your pillow might make you feel better (better, at least, thanrepparttar 126248 same blows torepparttar 126249 door!), but research shows that "venting" anger only increases it. In fact, speaking or acting with any emotion simply rehearses, practices and builds that emotion.

If these tips do not help at all and you still feel you cannot manage your anger andrepparttar 126250 related stress, you may need some professional help, either inrepparttar 126251 form of a therapist specializing in anger management or a coach with a strong background in psychology.

David Leonhardt is the Happy Guy (http://TheHappyGuy.com), author of "Climb your Stairway to Heaven: the 9 habits of maximum happiness at http://www.TheHappyGuy.com/happiness-self-help-book.html. For more tips on controlling anger, boosting self-esteem, expressing gratitude and reducing stress, pick up a copy of The Get Happy Workbook (http://TheHappyGuy.com/happiness-workbook.html)

How to Cope When Someone You Love is Deployed

Written by Susan Dunn, The EQ Coach

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Expect things to make you angry. You want to hear is it's all a joke, it isn't happening, and anything short of that won't work.

That having been said, it's normal to:

·Feel like you're going nuts ·Cry a lot ·Have trouble making decisions ·Have no appetite ·Sleep too much or not at all ·Feel angry


* Don't isolate yourself. "Share your thoughts, vent your anger, or ask for help," saysrepparttar Submarine Wives Club. Check out their website ( http://www.submarinewives.org ) for support groups, and useful information. * Hire a coach. http://www.coachfederation.org * Develop your emotional intelligence; build resilience. * Focus on yourself and keeprepparttar 126245 momentum going. Learn something new, develop a new skill. * Practice xtreme self-care - exercise, get massages, and eat right.

İSusan Dunn, The EQ Coach. Emotional intelligence coaching by phone email; Internet courses. www.susandunn.cc and mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc for FREE inspirational ezine.

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