Think of relationships that do run smoothly for you. A simple, “Let’s stop here for a snack before we continue drive,” is all it takes.

5.Constructive Discontent.

The relationships in your life are ongoing. You’ll be making further requests, so establish a positive pattern. If you are denied, take it well. Don’t make other person feel uncomfortable.

When you are given what you request, express your gratitude. No one – no matter how intimately involved with you – MUST give you what you ask for. You are not “entitled” to anything. So when you get what you want, let them know how much you appreciate it. This sets stage for further good things to happen. No one wants to be taken for granted.

6.Flexiblity.

Formulate what you want in such a way it can be met. Be willing to accommodate. You may want to stop on road for a snack … can you wait another 30 minutes in order to accommodate your partner who has his own reasons? Can you wait for a place that has barbecue? Can you wait for a place that also sells gas?

7.Creativity.

You’ll remove desperation if you’re creative in finding ways to get what you want.

If you’re told “no,” and there’s somewhere else you can get it, go there. This will increase your personal power and also take pressure off your relationship with original person.

Sometimes when first person see you going elsewhere, they rush in to give it as well. There’s no accounting for human nature; it’s a reality to be dealt with.

8.Intentionality.

Ariceli’s whining voice shows she intends to be turned down. If you intend to state your reasonable request forthrightly, knowing you have a right to request and expect it to be given due consideration and granted if possible, and you get much of what you ask for, let it show.

9.Intuition.

Ah, master EQ competency. How do you know whom to ask and when? Use your intuition! Work with an EQ coach to develop this important lifeskill.

10.Optimism – facilitator of all EQ Competencies.

The reason things aren’t working for Areceli is she’s pessimistic. She expects to be turned down. This makes her timid to make request in first place, and defeatist when she does.

When she IS turned down, like all pessimists Areceli makes it “personal,’ permanent and pervasive.” How does this work? Let’s say she asked Ben to give her day off. He declined. He had his reasons. Areceli told herself, “He said ‘no’ because I’m no good at asking (personal), I never will be (permanent), “and furthermore, I’m not good at anything (pervasive).”

Now when we check with Ben, here’s why he declined. Three other people in Areceli’s department had already been granted day off. Any other day, he would’ve been glad to let her go. It’s as simple as that.

Develop your Emotional Intelligence competencies and apply them to all areas of your life for more positive results. EQ has more to do with success, happiness and health than IQ, and it can be learned.

Don't waste your time and energy on things that can't be changed. Continuous worrying will only affect your health on long run, and you'd be doing much more damage than what was previously done.

Set yourself free. Move onwards with conviction of a winner.

What if we turn tables around? What if you never ran out of good luck?

There was this man who won lottery. He thought he was luckiest person in world. He became greedy and wasted all his money on everything he could get his hands on.

One day, he made it on front page of newspaper again. But this time, it was a different story. He was killed because of his riches.

If you attain good luck, never be too secure about it either. Pray for protection and guidance. Life is so unpredictable. You just won't know what will happen next.

Live one day at a time. Sometimes we subject ourselves to unneccesary mental and emotional torture. We ask ourselves, "What if I don't get this done in time?" or "What if my family leaves me and I've got no one else to turn to?"

Work at present moment. Do what must be done at present and future will turn out just fine. Believe me. And believe in yourself. As Captain Planet always says: "The power is yours!"