I find that getting away from computer and writing down my goals helps me. I personally have to sort through wants and desires, and values to define where I want to be. This step can't be vague. One has to be like that little child at Christmas that knows what she wants, that doll, that bike. Often when I am meditating on goals I try and recapture that feeling of childhood where I could feel myself playing with that pretty doll, brushing her hair, or riding that bike, wind in my hair. Wanting this one thing more than anything, thinking I would die without it. This is kind of feeling you have to have for what you want before you write your goal.

Then next step is to weed out wants, desires, brought on by what others say you should want and by family programming of what you should be doing. Well-meaning friends and family often make suggestions. But this is your goal and you need to draw upon your unique dream to pull out this goal. This is a process that can take weeks to or months achieve, but don't get discouraged that things are not moving fast enough. This is a really important step because this is basis of your map of getting what you want in life.

One of common pitfalls at this stage is to be in a all or nothing frame of mind. I want all of this now not later! It is important to set goals that are medium term and easily recognizable so one can say to themselves, "Yes, I am on my way because I have accomplished this goal. Now on to next one."

Another pitfall might be to set goals that disrupt everything else in your life. So look at this carefully. What would you do if you had no obstacles to doing anything you want in life. Believe in yourself you can do it. Don't be a perfectionist if everything doesn't go just as you plan and give up. This all or nothing kind of thinking has no room in this plan. You are developing a plan that is uniquely yours, that will make you desire having it just as you did that Christmas doll. Also, choose who you share your goal with carefully as it is fragile, not yet manifested and of this world, and can easily be smashed. There is a time to share with others, but not yet. Solidify it on paper; this brings it as a real thing into real world.

So now in next few weeks or months you will know where you are going and why you are going there. You no longer are lost in forest. You soon will be able to draw a clear map. Next week I will write on clear map. How not to buy a ticket to Seattle when it is San Francisco you long for.

Remember dream impossible dream.

What's Your Story?

We all have this magical power. Sometimes we don't even know it, much less take responsibility for it. We tend to pay more attention to events in our lives. When we react to something that has happened to us, we label it and then attach a story to it. Good, bad, exhilarating, depressing, rewarding or unfair, we make a note of it. We give these stories to our Genie for safe keeping. He stores them and will dutifully recover these accounts of events just as you have filed them. When we come upon a similar event in our life–sometimes years after Genie first filed original story–he quickly provides us with immediate reaction to take on our current dilemma based on this historical precedent.

At first glance, this sounds well and good. You have a living encyclopedia at your disposal along with your own "Genie librarian" to tell you correct response in any given situation. The challenge associated with this repository of stored responses is that many times those responses are no longer valid. We may have matured and outgrown a conditioned response yet we continue to blurt out inappropriate behavior–no matter how self destructive–because we have programmed ourselves to do so.

Good News, Bad News

Our lives today are culmination of every thought we've ever had. Once we embrace this concept–once we recognize we have created our world and take responsibility for it–we also realize we have power to change our world by simply changing our thoughts. We can rewrite our story through new experiences and different responses to our new and improved lives.

Best selling author, Neale Donald Walsch, talks about our three levels of thought and creation, "That which you think of, but thereafter never speak of, creates at one level. That which you think and speak of creates at another level. That which you think, speak, and do becomes made manifest in your reality."

Walsch goes on to say that if our lives are going to 'take off' we must become very clear about what we want to be, do, and have. Get rid of all negative thoughts. Forget all fears and doubts. When we are very clear about what we want, think about it often and think about nothing else. Take ownership and begin speaking your thoughts as truths.

Choose Your Thoughts

Fellow coach and good friend, Christen Murphy says, "What we focus on grows. We become what we think about most, so choose your thoughts well." She also states, "As humans, we like to make sense of our surroundings. Positive or negative, either way, we get to be 'right' about our life."

The question is... What do you want to be right about?

Positive and negative emotions cannot occupy mind at same time. Genie always responds to your thoughts and unspoken requests with, "Your wish is my command." Feed your Genie positive, supportive and well-nourished thoughts and you will live a life of prosperity, abundance, and untold riches.

And just to be safe, it wouldn't hurt to always make your third and final wish a request for... three more wishes.