This is a very personal key. Measuring your standards on a bar set by others means permanently installing yourself on a treadmill of your own making. Have courage to determine what you want out of life and make a promise to yourself that you will not settle for less than your vision of success.

I see this dilemma often among parents with young children. Some are stay-at -home moms who would really like to work at least part-time. Others are working at careers that leave them unsatisfied, when they would really prefer to spend more time with their children. And although we don’t often hear about this dilemma among fathers, there are a growing number of men who are sharing equally in day-to-day activities of child rearing and would also like more flexible work schedules. Take time to determine what is most important in your life and be honest with yourself as you identify a personal mission statement.

When you take time to know where you are headed, you will begin to see opportunities that will help you reach your goals. By honoring your vision of success, you'll be in best position to take that next bold step toward personal fulfillment. Start with a few things you want to change, ideas you want to pursue, people you want to meet, or a new hobby you want to try. Then, when you see an opportunity that will help you reach your unique goals, embrace challenge. Above all, commit to keeping your life mission foremost in your mind because it will help you identify your aspirations and serve as a roadmap as you navigate maze.

At a time when many feel compelled to spend more money (perhaps more than they can afford) yet feel they have less time, it’s important to focus on deeper meaning and spirit of holidays. Now and in days to come, regroup and refocus your energies to give most priceless gift you always have to offer – YOU. Truly most wonderful gifts of year are heartfelt, so here are a few you can offer whole year through.

1. Create A Moment Moments are magical times when someone later turns and says, “Remember time we…” Moments don’t just happen; they’re created. Moments are gifts that keep on giving and that can be relived at any time over and over again.

2. Unconditional Love and Friendship No judging, no gossiping, no criticizing – No Kidding!

3. A Random Act of Kindness Give of yourself daily. Acts both small and large count - choose to donate your time, energy, or money. You can experience even greater gratification if you don’t tell a soul.

4. The Gift of Time * Time with yourself to reflect and grow * Time with others to develop and build powerful relationships * Time given to others that empowers them to expand their greatness

5. The Gift of Respect Respect for yourself and others empowers you to value beauty inside and out. Value beauty of your relationships by infusing them with respect and honoring them with your time.

I encourage you to start today - share any or all of these gifts with yourself, family, friends, or colleagues. Remember, most wonderful gift of all is gift that keeps on giving!