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Then, once you find him or her, follow five suggestions below to build a relationship:
1. Don't melt into other person, but instead be strongly yourself.
The more you are yourself, stronger your bond with other person has a chance of becoming. That is if each of you -- being yourselves -- enjoys being with other.
2. Don't try to be nice and don't give just to be loved or liked. Just be.
In a long-term relationship, one that hopefully will last for rest of your life, you want to just be and have that be enough, have that be appreciated. So just be in beginning -- it will either be good enough, maybe even extraordinary, or not.
3. Don't rely on each other too much.
Don't need each other to fix life, emotional or financial problems. Emotions and loyalties get confused when new partners try to save each other. Keep relationship clean and be together because you want to, not because you need to.
4. Slow way down.
Take relationship very slow. Savor each milestone: first time you hold hands, first kiss, first afternoon spent together. Don't rush in search of holy grail of "relationships." If you end up together, these "firsts" will only happen once. If you don't end up together, you are more likely to end relationship sooner and more cleanly if you have not rushed in headfirst.
5. Build a friendship.
Building a good friendship takes time, effort, risk, communication, compassion, honesty. Do it - it is this friendship that will serve as a foundation of your relationship.
Now doesn't this sound better than cycle of finding love and then losing it again?
Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com
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Having coined the phrase "relationship coach," Master Certified Coach Rinatta Paries works with singles to help them attract their ideal relationship, and helps couples create more love and fulfillment in their existing relationships. Visit her web site at www.WhatItTakes.com or e-mail her at coach@WhatItTakes.com.