As I said, after this kind of encounter, it's unlikely you will experience romantic gestures from your current partner, even if he or she originally had a desire to be romantic.

Asking for your needs to be met looks very different than comparing partners and making your current partner wrong.

You may say something like, "You know, I really like and appreciate romantic gestures. Flowers or cards would make me feel loved and appreciated. Physical intimacy would make me feel loved and connected to you. I would like more of these from you. Can you do that for me?"

With an approach like this, you are much more likely to get what you want.

So stop comparing and start asking!

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

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