Being a seasoned networker I created this great "Getting to Know You Game" to facilitate mingling.

Everyone had a great time and I had more dates in months that followed than I had, had in my whole proceeding life. I dated Joe, tri-athlete psychiatrist with ponytail, Marcus tall and lean international photographer with thick rimmed glassed and huge motorcycle, Brian pinup paramedic with a passion for opera and Michael very cultured fireman with whom I shared an interest in exploring ethnic restaurants and my still very special friend Paul Magnificent a sultry magician who eats fire, lays on nail beds, walks on glass and can dance your shoes right off.

At one of cocktail parties, my cousin Kristi met a man named Robert. She had a "false truth" to disprove. She had accepted that asking men out never produced any long term benefit. Once I tracked down his number and persuaded, her to call him, she asked him out. They are now married with two children. Kristi has learned value of not accepting things way they are and instead taking action to make them way you want them to be.

Besides romance, friendships, fun. So much fun. The benefit was not buying into a "false truth" that did not support me and what I wanted for myself in my life. Instead of moping and hoping I took action and changed my whole reality. Where are you moping and hoping? Right now ask yourself- have you been moping lately- if so what about? Moping is like struggle, struggle reduces your energy for success. Taking action is far better than moping. If you've been moping about anything decide to stop it, decide to identify and take action to disprove any "false truths" that are interfering with your success.

You are responsible for deciding what is true for you. Take action, to create truths that will best serve you and watch your self respect and confidence grow. Take action prove to yourself truths that support you in achieving success you strive for.

To expect more success, more of time, follow these steps:

Acknowledge all small successes in process. Count your "wins" daily. Wins are all those things that go your way in a given day—the letter you wrote, VIP you finally got hold of, parking ticket you eluded, compliment you received.

Smile. Both psychologically and physiologically, this simple, easy action improves our well-being, which improves our outlook, which prepares us for all great things we are expecting to happen to us. To become fit and healthy from a success standpoint, give your smile muscles a workout just like rest of your body.

Hold your success attitude in your body. Stand up straight, raise your chin up, keep your shoulders back and feet firmly planted. Feel power of personal success in every cell in your body.

Create a compelling success image in your mind. Once you expect your success, see it. Imagine it vividly and in color—what are you doing, where are you, what are you wearing, how does it feel like in your body? Make your success as real as possible in your mind, so your expectancy is even stronger and, as a result, your actions even bigger.

Do affirmations. I like to call them "intentions." State to yourself over and over what you intend to create in your life. State your intentions verbally, out loud to yourself; state them silently, in your mind; and record them on a cassette tape so that you can listen to yourself stating what you expect to create in your life. If you think these efforts are excessive, ask yourself if it is possible for you to be excessively successful. You will only manifest in your life what you first manifest in your mind.

Be bold. Do all those things today that you know you will do when you are more successful. That is how you will create success you strive for in your business and life.

You will never be more successful than you expect you can be. Greet every day with belief that good things are going to happen to you. Expect to be successful with your calls, appointments and projects. Your work life will be enriched; you will take more risks, make more requests, and seize more opportunities. That will result in a better life, and that is what success is all about. A friend told me recently that studies show people with a positive disposition not only think they have better lives, they actually do have better lives. Following that with unscientific logic, I say that people who expect success not only think they are more successful, they actually are more successful. I urge you to vigorously and fully prove my theory in your own life.