You could see courage becoming more and more expressive on Eddie’s face, as he felt and received that acceptance. When he realized everyone was eager for him to be of service, he gave it his all. I was especially touched by something Eddie said, which I can only paraphrase. He stood up, one of few black people in room, and said “the reason God made us look different is so we would be able to practice remembering we are all one.”

This is what being of service does, too. Think about it. When you do a favor for someone you automatically set yourself apart, and often above, other person. When you are being of service, however, you are recognizing that you are connected, that we are all one.

Later that same Sunday, I conducted a workshop. A gentleman we later dubbed “Bike Messenger Bob” saw sign for workshop and pedaled in to join us. Bike Messenger Bob was an enthusiastic bundle of light and joy who demonstrated being of service. When I asked for water, he jumped up, got me a glass of water. He got me a bigger glass so I wouldn’t get thirsty later, brought me a brownie, went out to hallway and brought in a copy of my book to show to people, gave people encouragement, and at end of workshop he disappeared without a trace. He came solely to be of service. He didn’t do it for any acknowledgement, any reward, for anything in return.

Take some time this month to make a list of everyone you’ve done a favor for in past few months. Write down what favor was that you did. Then cross out words “did a favor” and replace them with “was of service”. Notice changes you feel about situation and your expectations of being owed anything, or of being somehow apart from, or more than, this person.

3. A third great discovery has to do with your Amygdala. This part of brain has been conditioned at a very young age by your parents, teachers and events in your life.

The Amygdala doesn't like change and will release neuro- transmitters anytime you try to change something in your life. Any deviation from what is your norm right now sets this off and basically causes you to revert back to your old patterns of thoughts and behaviors. This explains why most people have a hard time leaving a job or relationship they aren't totally happy with.

It also explains why people stay at same income bracket year after year. It may not be what they want, but it's what they are accustomed to and conditioned to expect.

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