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Half of us in room had no idea what he was talking about, and sad thing is I don’t know whether he knew that (which would be bad) or didn’t (which was worse).
2 minutes later, most ‘fierce conversations’ member in out-group said, “Oh, you mean we shot down one of our own guys? That’s really stupid.”
Someone else added, “And tragic.”
I hope more discriminating out there will understand that some of us despair at our own military with their reprehensible euphemisms such as calling killing children "collateral damage."
The US military is a sub-culture within a larger culture.
THE COMMON GROUND
The letter continues: “The day statue of Saddam was torn down, great divide between America and rest of world was briefly suspended.”
There is common ground.
Multiculturism demands that we use our empathy and intuition (emotional intelligence competencies) to understand other point of view, that we seek common ground, and also that we understand there are many cultures within any given culture.
I had a conversation with a client in Australia other day who eventually blurted out in frustration, “We hate American buzz over here. The hype. It’s too pushy.”
Did she assume I didn’t?
And should I assume she speaks for all Australians?
And should I assume she hates Americans (including me) because she hates "American buzz?"
Yes, she assumed I didn’t, while in actuality I dislike it myself. No, I do not assume she speaks for all Australians. I don’t look at things that way. Nor do I make grand and erroneous sweep to assume she hates Americans (and therefore me) because she hates something that some Americans do.
Check out your assumptions and challenge those of other. Look for common ground. Treat people as unique individuals. Brush up on your global EQ. The world is shrinking and we need to learn how to get along.
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