This mindset of not taking today or tomorrow for granted and knowing that end could happen at anytime; and therefore living this gift of life as honest, not only to yourself, but others, is extremely powerful.

The truth will set you free!

Insecurity cages you in a personal prison when you could be sailing behind warm winds towards a brighter and more gratifying future. It rents space in your mind and asks you to pay its bills. It impedes your personal progression and tells you that you can’t, when you can.

Regretfully, this is an internal force, not something external that you can run far away from and never see again.

Looking back, do you see your past and at some points feeling so insecure in some situations that required task couldn’t be completed because you felt inept?

Were you so insecure within that you had to feel secure by controlling others? If you were secure, you would know that your security is about letting go and having faith in your abilities no matter what situation your in.

Being secure is not “I’m better than you and I’m going to constantly show you;" to contrary, it is an inner confidence that needn’t be exuded, but known within, regardless of a checkered or questionable past.

Remember, you are not on earth a very long time in whole scheme of things, so wouldn’t it be better to get best you can out of yourself instead of locking everything up in an internal safe of insecurities?

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Why is a straight posture crucial? Because before you can straighten out your head, you first need to straighten up your body!

2nd Technique: Cheerful Voice

A lightning quick way to feel upbeat is to use a cheerful voice. Think of a time when you felt annoyed. Then, your phone rang. You answered it, and your caller was someone you wanted to impress. I bet you spoke in a cheerful voice so you would impress your caller. Result: You immediately started feeling your mood lift. Why is a cheerful voice an incredibly powerful optimism tool? Psychological research proved that a person emotionally feels emotion he or she is acting at moment. So, if you act cheerful, you feel cheerful. And a cheerful voice is fastest way to act optimistic.

3rd Technique: Use Upbeat Words

You can use types of words: upsetting and upbeat. Pessimists relish using upsetting words, while optimists excel at using upbeat words. Examples:

Upsetting Words Problem Tired Depressed

Upbeat Words Opportunity Recharging Bumming

For example, a pessimist says, “I have a problem.” In contrast, an optimist would say, “I have an opportunity to do better next time!”

4th Technique: Use Upbeat Attitudes

I find chief way to become an optimist simply is to focus on solutions – and not focus on problems. Every time a difficulty pops up, immediately create solutions and put them into action. Examples:

Upsetting Attitudes Focus on problems Dwelling on weaknesses Thinking about financial woes

Upbeat Attitudes Focus on solutions Dwelling on strengths Thinking about achieving prosperity

Why is a solution-focus ultra-important? Because you can only have one thought in your head at a time. So, if you focus on solutions, you cannot wallow in problems, complaining, blaming, or moaning.

5th Technique: Be a Magnificent Role Model

Remember a time you were a role model for someone. As you helped that person, you also helped yourself. As proverb goes: “What goes around, comes around.” If you are a delightfully optimistic role model for employees, co-workers, family and friends, then you simultaneously make yourself optimistic.

How do you do this? Make sure people see you using straight posture, taking big steps, speaking in a cheerful voice, using upbeat words and focusing on solutions.

Anyone can become an optimist. When people use these five techniques, they invariably tell me they feel heavy burdens lift off their shoulders. They feel positive, upbeat, and confident. You only need a few minutes to put these tips into action. They can be your key to enhanced health, wealth, and career success. © Copyright 2005 Maryann Troiani & Michael Mercer, Ph.D.