Your immediate thoughts are: “What an idiot! People like that shouldn’t be allowed to drive!! He’s an accident waiting to happen. They ought to lock him up!!”

The word –should- creates anger because of its demanding nature. Simply stated, situation is history. Yet, by saying it shouldn’t happen you’re demanding that reality not exist as it does, lousy as it may seem. Bottom line: it happened as it should based upon all events that led up to it happening.

Instead if you approach situation without demands then your reaction will change appropriately. You may wish he didn’t drive that way, you may prefer it, but he’s driving that way…so don’t deny reality of it!

It may be illegal, but it’s his choice to drive that way. You’d feel much better to accept it and not demand anything to contrary.

This works for anything in life. When you “should on somebody” you’re creating anger for yourself (or them) when it is totally un-necessary.

When you knock off demands, shoulds and oughts, you’ll notice a difference. It would be nice if things always went way you want them to go, but that isn’t reality, so become more tolerant by listening to your own thoughts and you’ll start to see anger withering away.

Too often, people end up in a career that they dislike because they heard that it paid well or perhaps their parents encouraged them to pursue a financially “safe” occupation such as accounting, law or medicine. In other cases, individuals decided to follow same profession as their parents. Some people say that they have too much debt or a lifestyle to maintain while others say that they just simply rely on their steady paycheck. Another question for you to you ponder is, “If I had one year to live and I could have any job, what would I do?” Many times, we already know answer to this question. However, we tend to ignore our passions and dreams because we put limitations on ourselves. We think things like, “I won’t get paid as much” or “It will take me forever to begin my own business.”

After you have discovered your deepest dreams, make a list of resources and skills that you must possess in order to perform your new job and create an action plan. Recognize that individuals only need to commit one hour, everyday. This one hour will give you strength to keep occupation that you hate while you work towards attaining a career that you love.