When we are suffering from depression, it seems that we lose our objectivity. Does thinking that we have nothing to look forward to sound rational to you? Where did my enjoyment in life disappear to? It was my perception of world that had slowly changed and I was unable to see it because of control that my depression had over me.

In fast pace of today's world we often don't allow ourselves time to evaluate our lives and set goals to realize our ambitions. Whether you do or do not have depression, you're reading this article because you think something might be wrong with your life. Have you tried to identify things you are unhappy with? The first step for me was to educate myself and find out what it was that I was dealing with. I started reading books. I consulted a psychologist to get some unbiased insight about myself.

Otherwise, how do we find solutions for problems that we don't yet understand? So let's get started. What's stopping you?

David http://www.mydepressionhelp.com

In a similar way, if you touch someone in a specific way when they are feeling sad, for example, you squeeze their shoulder or put an arm around them at a funeral, touching them later in same way will reawaken those feelings of sadness. So be careful about what sorts of emotions you are associating to your touch, words or face.

How does this apply to gifts?

A gift is by its nature an anchor. Every time recipient looks at gift, they will remember occasion when they received it, especially if they experienced strong emotions at time.

So you can help guarantee that your gift will be a strong ongoing anchor if you make sure that you create a truly memorable experience – such as an extremely romantic evening - when you present gift.

A woman will always remember following a trail of rose petals in her lover’s apartment to find necklace he purchased for her birthday.

A man will always remember being presented with his own personal star by a lover dressed only in a star-patterned bra and g-string. It’s also important to consider opposite effect.

Never give a gift by way of apology. You don’t want to create negative anchors by giving gifts after an argument.

If you give your wife a diamond ring to apologize for fact that she caught you cheating with your secretary, ring will always remind her of your infidelity.

If you give your husband a new watch to apologize for crashing his BMW, he’ll remember your transgression every time he checks time.

Even if those memories don't make it to conscious awareness, they're lurking just under surface. It makes better sense to allow them to fade away, instead of attaching them to physical objects like gifts. Keep things simple. A genuine apology is all that’s required after an argument. Save gifts for positive occasions.