Options......

You do have them, and exercising them would be your immanent next step. You can express you displeasure that these behaviors have gone unnoticed for too long and that it is detrimentally affecting relationship, so it therefore must stop!

Moreover, you can verbalize this in a heart to heart discussion, and in understanding need for your personal mental health, give them an overdue ultimatum.

Separating yourself from this environment should be indicated if: You receive a flat-out no in your attempts to let them know that enabling is going to discontinue and their behavior is, also. If they refuse to receive any type of treatment for their problems or addictions. If effect of their negative behavior is obviously polluting any children.

Note: When children are in picture, normal and unaffected, much thought must be given before breaking up their home and often should be put off until they leave comforts of home.

This may sound like living in an internal prison, however, health of any child must be paramount! A sacrifice for betterment of any children cannot be overstated.

In addition, it would inevitably yield relationship more time to mend, as you continue your attempts to work on eliminating your enabling, and assisting your partner’s problematic behaviors to discontinue.

The main point to understand is that enabling someone to cyclically delve into their poor behaviors and addictions must be recognized with your own clarity and logic; then immediately discontinued in order for you and your relationship to maintain it’s health.

So ask yourself, is enabling worth it?....Undoubtedly you will come to realization, it is most definitely not.

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