A lot of time, women in divorce situations have to deal with finance issues and they fear going out on their own because they've had financial support previously. Still, fear of losing finances or material things is not gender specific by any means...men and women alike need to decide if they are ready to go through financial loss to improve their lives if they feel a divorce will do so. Logic will lead you to fact that finances shouldn't be only piece of your divorce decision even though it usually figures in...as to what level finances figure into your divorce decision, will depend on you and what you deem important.

If your overall confidence and desire to start over with your love life support making a change, you're off to a good start in making a smart decision about whether to divorce or not.

Divorce Decision Item 4: Determining who else your divorce decision will affect and how much weight that carries in your decision making formula about divorce.

This item to consider when thinking about divorce is one of primary things that can lead a person to a decision, one way or another. Even though it can have serious negative repercussions, selfless people will take into account everyone else who will be affected by a serious change like getting a divorce...it is fundamental portion of overall process of making a smart divorce decision. Children, in-laws, common friends, etc., all will be affected by what you do regarding your action as a result of you truly answering question, "Should I Get A Divorce?".

When making your decision about staying married or getting divorced, you should look to future and decide whether your decision will improve or decrease your quality of life and quality of life of those that will be affected. The number one reason given by people who want to get divorced but don't go through with it, stems from fear that others will suffer from divorce. Be very careful when assessing this situation...make sure that you use logic and not emotion when evaluating your thoughts.

Making a divorce decision is a serious and difficult task because it is complex, deeply self-reflective, and frightening due to length of time it can affect you and others. Make sure that you have your thoughts organized and prioritized and you take your time in making a decision.

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Ultrasonic devices emit a high frequency sound which is annoying to cats (and dogs) but is not audible to humans. There are various different models some of which operate continuously and others which have an infra red detector and only emit a pulse of sound when cat triggers device. To be successful you need to ensure that model is powerful enough to cover area you wish to protect. In addition make sure that sound frequency is designed for larger animals since some models are intended to deter insects and so would be no use for cats.

There are also commercial scent cat repellents. Those that use chemicals should be kept away from any food crops but essential oil based granule varieties act in same way as orange and lemon peel mentioned above. Another way to keep a cat out if garden is a repellent evaporator which consists of a container holding puffed rice which has been impregnated with essential oils. These are effective for three to four weeks and can then be refilled for a further period. Another natural product which many people claim really keeps a cat out of garden is lion's dung. You may need to visit your local zoo to obtain this although some stores do stock zoo poo.

In Ontario, Canada local township provides a cat trap service. Once animal enters cage it cannot escape but is completely unharmed. The owner has to pay to recover his pet and so should be encouraged not to let cat stray in future. Apparently few owners bother to reclaim their cats but just obtain another kitten. However this sounds like a good way of dealing with a cat that cannot be deterred by any other method. If there is no such scheme in your area, just buy your own trap.

So, to recap, first priority is to secure your boundary fences. Then you have whole selection of suggested cat repellents ranging from homemade recipes to expensive commercial gadgets. I would suggest that you try orange peel and prickly twigs for a start. If you are around when intruder appears, try bucket of water or hose. Even if you miss, shock may be a sufficient deterrent. If these do not do trick, then you may have to consider commercial alternatives.

Hugh Harris-Evans is a retired 62 year old who divides his time between building his gardening web site http://www.garden-supplies-advisor.com and getting his hands dirty in his real world garden.