Divorce advice type 4: Legal and/or counseling advice regarding whether or not divorce is right for you from a psychological, emotional and financial perspective. When asking for this type of divorce advice, you may want to consider seeking advice of an attorney or financial planner for financial considerations and a counselor experienced in Clinical Psychology and "personal-life" coaching for impact that a divorce might have on you. Again, point is, split two concerns up so that you get a chance to speak to 2 different people who specialize in each area so that you will get appropriate divorce advice.

Divorce advice type 5: Counseling for emotional support when deciding whether or not you really want a divorce or are just unhappy in your marriage. This type of divorce advice is crucial to your happiness because when you're in an emotional state, it is tough to make lucid and rational decisions. And, if you're wrestling with deciding whether or not to get a divorce (purely from an emotional perspective), you should do all you can to make a logical decision because how you approach this decision and affects afterwards can be long lasting and far reaching. If you're are struggling with finding divorce advice, you may want to talk to friends, counselors, even other family members.

But, my divorce advice to you is, do it yourself.

I'm not saying don't talk with friends, counselors, and possibly family. What I am suggesting is that you reach final decision of whether to get a divorce on your own, you have to live with it, no one else.

The answer is inside you, you just have to get it out in a logical manner.

Whatever type of divorce advice you need, be sure that you're directing your energies in right direction.

If you don't separate emotional aspects from legal aspects of divorce advice, you might end up confused and unable to get most out of any meeting you may have with an attorney or marriage counselor. At end of day, you should control your own destiny and make a smart decision based on logic, controlled emotion, and forward thinking.

Karl Augustine, "A Practical Guide To Deciding Whether Or Not Top Get A Divorce"

*Marriage Counselor Recommended

Obviously there are many other things that could be labeled a "marriage problem", you have to decide what those are as they pertain to your situation.

So, how do you figure out if a marriage problem or problems are severe enough to warrant a divorce?

You should first examine what your marriage problem actually is and decide if it is exclusively a problem for you or if it is something that you both consider to be a marriage problem. If you are only one who sees said action as a marriage problem, you have to decide whether or not that specific marriage problem is being caused by you or whether it is truly a problem brought on by your spouse. If marriage problem is unique to you, seek some help from a counselor and do yourself courtesy of trying to correct problem before you believe that you need to run right out and get a divorce.

You'll be a better person for it because you will have fixed something within yourself.

However, if you truly believe that marriage problem is caused and prolonged by your spouse, sit down with yourself first and examine what you believe to be root cause of behavior that creates marriage problem. Make sure that you are being logical when you identify behavior that you feel is causing marriage problem and try to recall if traits or behavior that you've identified in your spouse are 'fixable' in your mind...assuming of course, that your spouse will agree that you are right.

Next, approach your spouse with information that you've reflected on and try to talk through cause of marriage problem. Hopefully your spouse will be open to constructive discussion regarding marriage problem so you can work through it together. If you cannot do work on marriage problem together, seek help of a mediator or marriage counselor so you can actually talk out marriage problem logically. If you cannot work it out after counseling, deep self-reflection and discussions, you should be able to decide whether or not marriage problem warrants a divorce or not.

Of course, no one can decide this but you.

Karl Augustine http://www.deciding-on-divorce.com/marriage-problem.htm