By doing this you are starting to create a picture of where you want to go next. Now you will start to get thoughts, ideas, circumstances people and events that will support what you want. Thinking about your don’t wants just invites more of same. Client experience has also shown that as soon as you start to put your attention on what you do want, you inevitably start saying one word more often than not…”BUT”.

A sure fire way to stay where you are is to put your attention on what you don’t want and when you do think about what you do want, negate it immediately with “but…”. “I want a short commute, but I’ll never find job I want close to home.” You know what? You’re right because you won’t take another step to find it.

Eliminate “but” from your vocabulary when it comes to putting your attention on what you want. Simply replace it with, “I will need to…”.

-“I want a short commute, but I will never find job I want close to home” becomes “I want a short commute. I will need to search for a job I want closer to home.”

When you use word “but” you hit a wall. You don’t’ take another step because you don’t’ see another step. When you replace it with, “I will need to…” now you have a project, a next step.

If you really want to create work that satisfies you, then start putting your attention on what you do want and stop using word “but”.

Taking these two simple steps will get you moving and into a career that really satisfies you faster then you can say, “but I’ll never find a career that really satisfies me.”

It is rather like planning a major vacation trip. The excitement is in deciding where to go and what to see, as if whole world were our personal oyster. Once we have selected our destiny and then completed our trip, we look back in enjoyment and treasure memories but never quite recapture level of excitement of that initial anticipation.

Confronting unavoidable limitations that any one position will impose on our inner vision leads to a nagging sense of having been cheated out of some of our expectations. No matter how wonderful Christmas present we receive may be, it never quite matches thrill of seeing it sitting under tree, brightly wrapped and incredibly desirable necause it could be absolutely anything.

3. A period of time without work destroys much of ordinary structure of our lives. Despite unexpected free time it provides, we tend not to make productive use of much of it. One reason we lose time is our emotional distress which leaves us drained, listless, and disconnected. Another cause is that there are no time pressures or deadlines. If we don't get it done today, there will be time tomorrow. We no longer have to squeeze in extra chores between demands of work and our everyday lives so we don't fit them in at all.

If we reproach ourselves for our lack of action and poor motivation, we rationalize that our energy needs to be conserved for demands of job search. Once job hunt ends, we are confronted with knowledge that we have squandered vast amounts of time and will now have to take action when our available time will be limited by work demands. Guilt and self-disgust further deflate our mood.

Give yourself time to gradually wind down. Allow yourself to get rid of tension by refocusing on relaxation: sleeping, exercising, shopping, walking, meditating, just doing nothing -- whatever seems to work for you. Accept that your intermittent distress is a natural consequence of your unemployment experience. Watch your changing emotions with understanding and affection. View your inner turmoil with patience and compassion and with sure knowledge that your own industrious efforts led to your success and have earned you a well-deserved period of self-indulgence.

As you gradually regain your physical and emotional balance, you can start to truly bask in enjoyment of reconnecting with world of work.