Begin to listen to yourself, really listen to what you say to yourself and what you say to others about yourself. Learn that what you say is what creates your life. If you begin to see that words that you use when you are talking about yourself are true, hopefully you will begin to change them in order to change your reality. This includes jokes that you make at your own expense! Putting yourself down using humor is like wearing a neon sign that says, “I have low self esteem! I will make fun of myself before you can make fun of me!” You may be life of party doing this, but you are never going to empower your life.

Stop “diss-ing” yourself! Change disempowering words to empowering ones and create reality that you deserve.

You might be surprised down road somewhere, because letting a painful situation just work itself out can lead to much better things in your life eventually. I have experienced this personally, and I know that it is true. Honestly, I know that you hear this all time, but your life and how it plays out really does depend on how you approach it. If you see things as dark then they are. If you can learn to see difficult times as learning experiences, they lose a lot of their sting. If you can learn how to go with flow of life without struggling, you are a lot less likely to drown during rough spots.

This does NOT mean that you can approach all parts of your life this way. Remember, “…the courage to change things I can.” When you can discern what things need changing and what things need to be gone through without struggle, you have then learned one of most valuable lessons of life.

"And when night is cloudy, There is still a light that shines on me, Shine on until tomorrow, let it be." © Paul McCartney John Lennon