To find out truth about this type of desire you need to be completely relaxed and centered One of things I do when I want to examine where a desire is coming from is I take a few deep breaths and totally relax my body. I then picture myself totally alone on a mountain top, I drop away all external pressures and pretend that I have always been alone on this mountain top. I have never met another person so I cannot be influenced by any outside wishes, dreams, desires or social norms. Then I can discover if want is really a deep seated personal one or not.

If you feel pressure from one person in your life in particular, it is important to drop them completely from your thoughts and pretend that you have never met them. You have most likely spent your life being influenced by those around you so it may feel scary to do this for first time. Just keep taking deep breaths and centering yourself.

I repeat something like –I am all alone in world, I have no pressure from anyone else – what is it that I really want. I say this a few times until a really feel that I have dropped rest of world from me and then I just look at a desire I have and see if it really fits with who I am and who I want to be.

Once you are clear about what you want it is time to put an action plan together and go for it.

What could you negotiate with yourself today - to pull your dream a little bit closer? How about making a small deal with yourself? If I (fill in blank), then I could (fill in blank). Who better to negotiate with?

Which Way to Easy Street?

There is no Easy Street (at least not on my road map). But there is that road less traveled... with a few obstacles along way. My husband lost two jobs soon after I made major changes in my life, first just months later. It wasn't easy, but I had Plan B ready to go.

What's worst thing that could happen if you take a different path? Beneath your obstacle list from above, jot down worst things that might happen. In column next to them, jot down some ideas for a Plan B of your own.

What's Keeping You?

***Time*** Instead of working more hours away from home for 'extra money', could you invest your time in planning and saving for your dream? Do your current activities move you closer to doing what you'd love to do?

***Energy*** Short on energy? Try blowing dust off your dream. You'll be amazed at renewed energy you'll have! Eliminate energy wasters -- things that don't move you forward.

***Money*** What spending can you 'exchange' if it means finally living your dream? Money I spent weekly buying books is now funneled back into my dream. Trade your current spending for your dream. You'll be wonderfully surprised at how much money you'll *find* for your dream!