· We need to be encouraged to stay on path of perfection. The motivation does not come naturally.

· We also need to focus on abilities, not on our inabilities.

· The self-evaluation that comes with trying to be better than others brings with it fear of making mistakes.

· Anticipating dangers of making mistakes makes us error-prone.

· Too many relationships are mistake-centered.

· Too many relationships are based on fault-finding.

· Realize your limits and don't try to correct or change too many things at once.

· Develop your personal strengths and worth.

· Complete circle: Mutual respect begins by valuing yourself.

· Pursue your ambitions, but avoid giving or receiving fierce competition, discouragement, unrealistically high standards, and overambitious.

· Set your course while remembering that you're a normal, average, imperfect human being.

Remember: When you maximize your potential, everyone wins. When you don't, we all lose.

© MMIV, Etienne A. Gibbs, MSW

5. Changing your negative behavior can most effectively influence negative behavior of others.

6. Because your positive relationships are influenced by your positive actions, show appreciation for positive behavior in others.

7. Because it usually takes two to tango, withdraw from conditions that can easily lead to power struggles.

8. Because retaliation stimulates further revenge, avoid retaliating with revengeful people. Instead, express goodwill. You'll improve quality of relationship.

9. Instead of finding faults in others, focus on their assets and strengths.

10. Showing confidence in your loved one will help him or her develop self-confidence.

11. Because a manipulator lacks self-confidence, focus on his or her past legitimate successes.

12. Because a bossy person is difficult to speak to, communicate with this person through your loving actions.

Remember: When you maximize your potential, everyone wins. When you don't, we all lose.