The tv programme had showed that so far in trials, if sufferers did a series of eye and body coordination exercises daily, they significantly improved their learning abilities, reading and writing. This in-turn had a profound effect on their self-confidence and daily lives. They didnt consider themselves impaired or different anymore, they became new people and people saw that dramatic change in them instantly.

A few days later he phoned me. Something had changed in his voice, he sounded charged with excitement. As i sat stunned he explained that his whole life had changed. Everything that dyslexia sufferers in tv programme had suffered he had also suffered. Feelings of being worthless, stupid, confused, lacking in concentration, severe frustration, lack of confidence. He identified with these people of all ages who felt same as he did, he wasnt only one suffering with it. He wasnt alone anymore.

I remained stunned as he continued to talk and eventually he became conscious of fact he hadnt stopped talking. I told him to carry on because it was good to hear him talking so positively and confidently. He'd also just landed a new job as a care support worker which involves helping and supporting others with some kind of difficulty in their homes. I couldnt believe transformation i was witnessing. A few days later i spoke to him again by phone and was relieved to find that it hadnt been a dream, it was real and he was still new Steve. He was still positive and motivated. He'd even started to read a book, something he hadnt done before.

At time i write this article, Steve has sent off for more information on trials and oversubscribed course they are beginning to offer. He hasnt yet received any information or taken any courses, yet he feels as if he's benefitted because he's been doing some of simple daily exercises he saw being done by sufferers on programme.

Steve, you inspired me!

I hope by writing this article it will inspire others to change their lives for better too, whether you suffer with dyslexia or not. Always be on lookout for that spark of opportunity that could change your life or someone close to you forever.

Good luck!

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3) Express Your Needs

Now time has come to express yourself to your partner. Remember, this is about getting your feelings heard and your needs met.

1. Ask person if they can talk with you. Make sure that you have given person enough time for his or her own processing. "I want to talk with you about upset I was. Is this a good time for you?” 2. Tell person how much you love them. "I just want to tell you how much I love you and how important our relationship is to me." This may sound strange but it actually helps relax other person so that they can actually listen to you. In addition, it will help person be more receptive your needs. Remember, this about getting your needs met! 3. Express how you feel. "I feel angry and upset right now. I feel unimportant when a person is late and does not let me know." 4. Tell person what you need. "What I really need from you is to call me when you are going to be more than 15 minutes late." 5. Ask person for support. "This is really important to me, is this something you can do for me?"

In most cases, if you follow this process person will be more than happy to meet your needs and more likely to follow through on their support. You will feel heard and disagreement should feel resolved.

4) Peace

Check back with your feelings and determine if you still feel angry or resentful. If you are, there is probably more that is going on and process should be repeated. If you do still feel angry, make sure it is real anger. Sometimes we think that only way to win is for other person to lose, and we feel dissatisfied without knock down, drag out fight. Hopefully, you will feel really good at this point, your anger will be gone and your needs met. This is a good time to give each other a hug and reaffirm that you love each other.

5) Sync up & Acknowledge

A couple days later, check in with yourself and with your partner to ensure that matter has been resolved. When person supports your needs in way that you requested, make sure you acknowledge that and tell them how much their support means to you. This will reinforce behavior and ensure that your needs will continue to be met.

These steps will go a long way to improving your communication with your partner during a disagreement. This will probably feel a little strange at first. It will take practice. Think about how wonderful it will be to get what you need without energy-draining, defensive, and damaging fights. Remember, this is not about blame and what other person did “wrong”. This is about getting your feelings heard and your needs fulfilled. You and your partner will both be happier with result.