Desperation to inspiration in thirty minutes flat !

Written by Peter Simmons

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The tv programme had showed that so far inrepparttar trials, if sufferers did a series of eye and body coordination exercises daily, they significantly improved their learning abilities, reading and writing. This in-turn had a profound effect on their self-confidence and daily lives. They didnt consider themselves impaired or different anymore, they became new people and people saw that dramatic change in them instantly.

A few days later he phoned me. Something had changed in his voice, he sounded charged with excitement. As i sat stunned he explained that his whole life had changed. Everything thatrepparttar 131389 dyslexia sufferers inrepparttar 131390 tv programme had suffered he had also suffered. Feelings of being worthless, stupid, confused, lacking in concentration, severe frustration, lack of confidence. He identified with these people of all ages who feltrepparttar 131391 same as he did, he wasntrepparttar 131392 only one suffering with it. He wasnt alone anymore.

I remained stunned as he continued to talk and eventually he became conscious ofrepparttar 131393 fact he hadnt stopped talking. I told him to carry on because it was good to hear him talking so positively and confidently. He'd also just landed a new job as a care support worker which involves helping and supporting others with some kind of difficulty in their homes. I couldnt believerepparttar 131394 transformation i was witnessing. A few days later i spoke to him again by phone and was relieved to find that it hadnt been a dream, it was real and he was stillrepparttar 131395 new Steve. He was still positive and motivated. He'd even started to read a book, something he hadnt done before.

Atrepparttar 131396 time i write this article, Steve has sent off for more information onrepparttar 131397 trials andrepparttar 131398 oversubscribed course they are beginning to offer. He hasnt yet received any information or taken any courses, yet he feels as if he's benefitted because he's been doing some ofrepparttar 131399 simple daily exercises he saw being done byrepparttar 131400 sufferers onrepparttar 131401 programme.

Steve, you inspired me!

I hope by writing this article it will inspire others to change their lives forrepparttar 131402 better too, whether you suffer with dyslexia or not. Always be onrepparttar 131403 lookout for that spark of opportunity that could change your life or someone close to you forever.

Good luck!

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Peter Simmons

Anger Resolution for Couples

Written by Jennifer Ottolino

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3) Express Your Needs

Nowrepparttar time has come to express yourself to your partner. Remember, this is about getting your feelings heard and your needs met.

1. Askrepparttar 131388 person if they can talk with you. Make sure that you have givenrepparttar 131389 person enough time for his or her own processing. "I want to talk with you about upset I was. Is this a good time for you?” 2. Tellrepparttar 131390 person how much you love them. "I just want to tell you how much I love you and how important our relationship is to me." This may sound strange but it actually helps relaxrepparttar 131391 other person so that they can actually listen to you. In addition, it will helprepparttar 131392 person be more receptive your needs. Remember, this about getting your needs met! 3. Express how you feel. "I feel angry and upset right now. I feel unimportant when a person is late and does not let me know." 4. Tellrepparttar 131393 person what you need. "What I really need from you is to call me when you are going to be more than 15 minutes late." 5. Askrepparttar 131394 person for support. "This is really important to me, is this something you can do for me?"

In most cases, if you follow this processrepparttar 131395 person will be more than happy to meet your needs and more likely to follow through on their support. You will feel heard andrepparttar 131396 disagreement should feel resolved.

4) Peace

Check back with your feelings and determine if you still feel angry or resentful. If you are, there is probably more that is going on andrepparttar 131397 process should be repeated. If you do still feel angry, make sure it is real anger. Sometimes we think thatrepparttar 131398 only way to win is forrepparttar 131399 other person to lose, and we feel dissatisfied withoutrepparttar 131400 knock down, drag out fight. Hopefully, you will feel really good at this point, your anger will be gone and your needs met. This is a good time to give each other a hug and reaffirm that you love each other.

5) Sync up & Acknowledge

A couple days later, check in with yourself and with your partner to ensure thatrepparttar 131401 matter has been resolved. Whenrepparttar 131402 person supports your needs inrepparttar 131403 way that you requested, make sure you acknowledge that and tell them how much their support means to you. This will reinforcerepparttar 131404 behavior and ensure that your needs will continue to be met.

These steps will go a long way to improving your communication with your partner during a disagreement. This will probably feel a little strange at first. It will take practice. Think about how wonderful it will be to get what you need without energy-draining, defensive, and damaging fights. Remember, this is not about blame and whatrepparttar 131405 other person did “wrong”. This is about getting your feelings heard and your needs fulfilled. You and your partner will both be happier withrepparttar 131406 result.

Jennifer Ottolino is a Personal and Professional Discovery Coach who specializes in helping individuals live a balanced and fulfilled personal and professional life. Send her an email at or visit her website at

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