Dealing with Mr.Charisma

Written by Peter Murphy

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Other people prefer a auditory filter. Imagine that your ears can be tuned in like a radio. You only hearrepparttar words notrepparttar 101982 wayrepparttar 101983 words are manipulated to effect your emotions.

Choose a filter that appeals to you and use it to help you think independently so that you can evaluate what you are listening to. Why does this work? By using your imagination in this way, you are usingrepparttar 101984 power of your right brain to help you get what you want.

3 Take Back Time

Take time out fromrepparttar 101985 onslaught. Either ask directly for time to consider what is being said or occasionally repeat back what he is saying in your own words. By paraphrasing his words you will regain control ofrepparttar 101986 flow ofrepparttar 101987 conversation. You will also be showing that you are listening and understanding what is being discussed.

It is simple at this point to take charge by asking questions. Whoever is askingrepparttar 101988 questions is generally in charge ofrepparttar 101989 conversation so use this skill to assert your authority. Then use this time to decide what *you* think.

Mr.Charisma can easily take charge unless you understand how to regain composure. Break rapport, filter his words and take time to formulate your own opinions.

Peter Murphy is a freelance business writer. He publishes a free weekly ezine full of practical tips for communicating at your best under pressure. All new subscribers receive a free e-book with powerful strategies for being at your best. To subscribe send a blank email to:

The First Step to Real Success

Written by Wendy Hearn

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The measurement of your success goes beyond work and business. When we get too tied up in measuring our success through what we do for a living, we can come crashing down if we're made redundant orrepparttar business ceases.

Success is often talked about. It's one of those things that many people are striving for, but fear atrepparttar 101981 same time. We talk about people and label them as successful. Yet success as a word is often without any real meaning for most people. Success is held up as something to aim for.

If you're chasing other people's versions of success, you're not likely to experience it yourself. You will only feel and be successful when you do it your own way. The first step towards real success is to define success for yourself. The dictionary defines 'success' asrepparttar 101982 achievement of something desired, planned or attempted. Your definition will different from other people's. Success isn't an end result or a goal; it's a process and a journey to be enjoyed.

"There is only one success: to be able to spend your life in your own way" - Christopher Morley

Success needs to be exciting and fill you with enthusiasm, not put you under undue pressure. Let your definition of success give you plenty of opportunities to celebrate. Your measure of success should challenge you, to really bring our your best rather than allow you to become complacent.

How will you know when you're successful? What is your own definition of success?

Wendy works with business owners, professionals, executives and managers who are ready to enrich their lives. . . finding more success, fun, balance, joy and time. Free Report - How to Focus on Achieving What You Really Want Send email to

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