- Talking of being best, have you checked out your wardrobe recently? If you met you what would you think?

- Practice being with people. Try to go to as many social functions as you can fit in and simply talk to others, without expecting romance, even if just for a minute or so. People love to talk about themselves, and with practice you'll develop easy ways of getting both men and women into conversation.

- Don't waste time on dates with people who make you feel unsettled or anxious, or uncomfortable about being yourself. All that will happen is that you'll start thinking there's something wrong with YOU. Ditch them - nicely of course.

- Take time off from looking for dates and develop your interests, so you'll have stuff to talk about when you do meet someone nice.

- Sometimes it becomes clear after a while that your date will make a much better friend than partner. If that's case, be honest but do try to stay in touch. Thay way your social life will expand into areas you may not have expected.

- Don't be shy of introduction agencies. It's much more acceptable to meet people this way these days, and there are agencies to suit people from all walks of life.

Thus it is with ourselves.

We have established that we can expect NO HELP FROM OTHERS. Why should anyone else help us anyway, it's our problem. If someone came to you with "Ive got a terrible problem with my lawyer, and my cat isn't eating, my mother-in-law is being funny and I've got results of my x-rays tomorrow" you might well be a little concerned, but I bet your first thought would really and truly be "how can I get away as quickly as I possibly can without causing offence? ".

So why hell should others be expected to listen to you bleating on about helping you to quit your problem.

IT'S YOUR PROBLEM.

Also you will never stop doing anything you really LIKE DOING. You have to really want to stop for good and ever, not just when you attain a certain level, because you will only gradually go back to what you were before, a PAIN.

If you hear an alcoholic say after a year off booze "I'm ok for a pint now" what do you REALLY think will happen if he/she has a pint/short?? You know as well as I do.

So really you have to :

a) Realise it is just you that matters and does anything b) realise you have to really WANT to quit c) Realise no-one else is going to do it for you magically. d) realise that it was a phase you had to live through e) realise that it will definitely kill you, very very painfully f) realise that you will have gained from your descent into hell

There are many ways to quit addictions for different people. If you are reading this they have probably all failed.

Wrong.

YOU HAVE FAILED. MOST of methods work if you WANT them to work. I suggest that you treat it as a phase of your life, and you have learned from this phase and wish to move on and prove to everyone that you aren't stupid. Because anyone who knows that something is killing them and alienating people, and still does it, is stupid; has not learned one iota from what they have done have not progressed one jot in their mindset.

Water, pure little tap water, fills you up and is needed more than you think. Eighty per cent of human body is water, so it makes sense to drink it. This is a good start to purifying your body and mind. Drink a few litres a day. And KEEP BUSY.

Remember, I make zero money out of this article, but it is probably best common sense you'll ever read.

Most articles you will read have a hidden agenda, TO MAKE MONEY OUT OF ADDICTED PEOPLE. If you quit forever, they'd lose your money in future, wouldn't they? They plan on you quitting EVERY YEAR. Why not just do it ONCE; I sure as hell would not want to quit smoking and drinking on a yearly basis!!

WHAT I GAIN:

I just get to have a few more people visiting my website, if you stop for a second or two to read this article, as I get a kick out of getting visitors from all over world, and seeing my site visitor numbers rise. I guess you could think of it as an obsession, or a phase I'll probably grow out of in time!

But it is also very nice if you can help people, and I've been places you really do not want to go, and had things done to me you really and truly WOULD NOT LIKE. I SHOULD BE DEAD, I am not.

We all KNOW what we should and shouldn't be doing by and large, and no-one can make a difference but ourselves.

It is a sad fact of modern life that everyone expects to be able to do what hell they like and then someone will bail them out at last minute.

Fact is, if you don't quit, you'll die young, in pain and alone.

YOUR CHOICE, YOUR LIFE,

but you WILL die sooner than most.

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