And yet, lack of sleep threatens our health in profound ways. Sleep research has become a hot topic in medicine. Many of us suffer because we don’t sleep enough. Sleep researchers are claiming that many of us overweight, not because we eat too much, but because we don’t get enough sleep. The lack of sleep throws off our biochemistry. What is especially significant is effect of sleep deprivation on our brains. The latest research indicates that our bodies don’t need sleep but our brains do. One of primary tools used to abuse prisoners is to deprive them of sleep. And yet, that is what we do to ourselves. We deprive ourselves of sleep in our unyielding quest after our elusive goals. We don’t allow ourselves enough dark time to rest our brains. The consequences are disease, stress, and confusion. Sabbath The Sabbath is a uniquely Judeo-Christian concept. Many people have rebelled against idea of keeping Sabbath. They see it as a time of restriction, without understanding that concept of Sabbath was a truly revolutionary and liberating idea in religious history. Sabbath blesses idea that that people are neither slaves nor machines. We are not meant to work constantly. We are meant to rest periodically. To take stock. To slow down. To have one day each week devoted to something other than work.

Choose To Celebrate The Darkness How does any of this relate to abundance? Constant striving demonstrates a failure to trust in essential abundance of universe. A choice to live an “Abundantly Alive Now!” life is rooted in consciousness that there is enough. In this dark time of year, you can choose to celebrate darkness and slow down, rest, and rejuvenate.

Universal signs of a bad dating choice can be learned and should be by all women. But until recently, categories and types of dangerous men were known only to therapists who treated them. The 7th Great Wonder of World (psychopathology) was undisclosed, explained, or taught to lay public. Women’s patterns of perilous selections continued on without benefit of knowledgeable intervention that included how to spot dangerousness. Girls, teens, and women are all told not to date ‘bad men’ but no one taught them what bad men were or what made them bad.

A woman’s capacity to choose differently is only as effective as information she has to choose wisely. Women begin to make different selections when they understand incurableness of some men, what makes them untreatable and unsafe, and how he can impact her long term quality of life by his own destructive dangerousness. Women can understand and do respond when they have information to choose differently. They also learn to choose differently when they learn to reconnect to red flags that their bodies are faithful to send them. Information and awareness become powerful tools for healthier relationships and long term change.

For more information or a private interview, contact: Sandra L. Brown, M.A. sandrabrownma@yahoo.com or www.saferelationships.com These concepts were taken from forthcoming book ‘How to Spot a Dangerous Man Before You Get Involved’ and companion workbook of same name (Hunter House, Feb 2005).