Low Hanging Fruit Are there a couple of items that you can just take care of this second and then they'd be done? Make phone calls, send emails, put ball in someone else's court. You'll feel great.

Find Out, Decide, Do Look over your hot list and figure out what kind of action is required. Do you need to get information, make a decision, or just do it. Often an item stays on a To Do list because this step hasn't been addressed. Make sure every item on your list has a verb attached.

Treat Yourself So you can't stall any longer. It's time to do work. Make it pleasurable. Combine something you hate with something you enjoy. Listen to music while you wash kitchen floor. Promise yourself a hot bath or coffee with a friend when desk is cleared off. Have someone who truly understands what you've accomplished say congratulations with deep sincerity.

So that's secret of my success. I'll always be a grasshopper in my heart, but I've come to appreciate a day to day sense of accomplishment. That surge of panic when I do something at last minute has a certain appeal but it can't beat satisfaction of crossing something off your list.

The first thing you need to do to get complete is to feel all of your feelings, no matter how unpleasant they may be. How do you feel about your past relationships? Have you swept your feelings under rug? Are you still secretly pining for someone? What are you afraid of in regards to relationships? Who are you still angry with?

In order to allow yourself to feel, you have to know that feelings, unless they are of clinical depression or criminal rage kind, will not kill or hurt you. Most people have either not had permission or never slowed down enough to feel their feelings. You must give yourself both time and permission if any completion is to take place. As long as you don't let yourself feel, you will recreate exactly what you had in past. If you want something different -- a fulfilling relationship -- you can't afford to recreate past.

Right now, check in with your feelings and make a list of all people and situations you need to complete. We will come back to this list.

The second thing you need to do to get complete is to take action. Look for a list of ten action steps in next week's newsletter.

Your Relationship Coach, Rinatta Paries www.WhatItTakes.com

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