Creative Procrastination

Written by Steve Gillman

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The key to creative procrastination is to recognise which things you should and shouldn't do. By all means, learn to overcomerepparttar habit of procrastinating on good actions, but let yourself get intorepparttar 139896 habit of waiting to do harmful or time-wasting things.

Of course it's better to quit bad habits and actions, but this is really just an easier way to quit. Put off smoking that cigarette often enough, and you'll be smoking less of them. Wait a couple days to go eat that fast food, and you're breakingrepparttar 139897 habit, one step at a time. That's creative procrastination.

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Written by Michael Mercer, Ph.D.

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Finally,repparttar man felt frustrated, because he failed to understandrepparttar 139895 point ofrepparttar 139896 lawyer’s questions, so he blurted, “You’re a lawyer. Ask me useful questions about my lousy marriage?”

So,repparttar 139897 lawyer asked, “Why do you want to divorce?” The man replied, “Because we can’t communicate!”

This story shows, in extreme fashion, that many conversations actually are two simultaneous monologues. To make a great impression, listen well using these tactics: Paraphrase or repeat ideasrepparttar 139898 person said 1. Ask questions 2. Take notes

5th Technique: Artful Vagueness

Prospective clients, who wanted to use my consulting, told me their business problems. Using my expertise with similar problems, I gave my recommendation. They kept telling me they did not like my recommendation. But I knew my recommendation would solve their business problems. The more I said I was right and they were wrong,repparttar 139899 more they defended their viewpoint. Suddenly, I realized I did not make them feel comfortable enough. But, I could not agree with them, since they were wrong. So, I listened again to their ideas. Then I said, “I’ve listened carefully to how you want to do this project. That’s an idea.”

Atrepparttar 139900 same time, I thought to myself – but did not say it – “That’s a stupid idea.”

What did they think? They apparently interpreted “That’s an idea” as me agreeing with them, although I had not. Actually, anything anyone says is “an idea.” This technique is called artful vagueness. You can get out of uncomfortable jams using these artfully vague phrases: “That’s an idea.” “You’ve got a point.” “You may be right.”

6th Technique: Use Everyone’s Favorite Word Imagine a time you heard someone shout your name. I bet you spun around to see who called your name. We are drawn to people who say our names. My research comparing high-achievers and underachievers revealed high-achievers usedrepparttar 139901 name ofrepparttar 139902 person they spoke to one or more time in each conversation. In contrast, underachievers usedrepparttar 139903 name ofrepparttar 139904 person they encountered less than halfrepparttar 139905 time. This means high-achievers userepparttar 139906 name of people they talk with much more than underachievers. You can do what high-achievers do.

7th Technique: Compliments

While studying high-achievers and underachievers, I discovered an amazing difference. High-achievers gave an average of three compliments per day. However, underachievers seldom gave compliments. What an intriguing difference you can use to your advantage!

Some people say these seven charm school techniques are “selling out.” But, a French saying puts it in perspective: “A car can go as far on square wheels as it can go on round wheels. The difference is that on round wheelsrepparttar 139907 ride is much smoother.” Go through your life on round wheels!

© Copyright 2005 Michael Mercer, Ph.D.

Michael Mercer, Ph.D., is a conference speaker and consultant with The Mercer Group, Inc. in Barrington, Illinois. Dr. Mercer created the widely used “Abilities & Behavior Forecaster™” pre-employment tests, you can view at He authored 5 books, including “Hire the Best -- & Avoid the Rest™”. You can subscribe to Dr. Mercer’s free e-Newsletter at You can call him at (847) 382-0690.

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