The first brainstorming session should be free flowing, don't edit your thoughts or ideas. If you are working on your personal vision and your work vision to define what you want and how you want to spend your time, start with personal vision. This will give you absolute clarity about what is important to you, what you want, what are things in your life you are passionate about and that make you feel fulfilled. Then from there you can create vision of your ideal business or career and take action to bring want you really want into your life.

Focus on what you really want, be very specific. Don't just say you want lots of money, a nice home and no stress. Create a picture in your mind of exactly what you want down to color of carpet and list of clients, and then using words draw that picture until your vision is clear.

For example: I want a profitable and fulfilling holistic health practice. I want to see clients in three different specialties plus passive income revenue streams. A full successful practice will have 30-40 clients. I will work five days a week between noon and six devoting rest of day to self-care, gardening, exercising, and spending time with family and friends. I will make 100,000 a year and take 5 weeks vacation throughout year. I love to learn so I will spend 3 weeks a year in educational workshops and training programs to advance my career and myself. I have several tape sets, workbooks, & learning products that fit into my personal and vision statement providing my clients excellent value and tools that help them to get on track with their lives. These products are very rewarding to me because I can make money without having to be there. Making a contribution and improving people's lives is very important to me so this is always something I carry out in my business practices and my community involvement. I have redesigned my home to be bright and airy and laid out gardens for ease of care, and to provide color and fragrance from my flowers and tastes and aromas from my organic vegetables. I avoid stress by focusing on positive and focusing my energy on things that are really important to me and just let rest go.

You create what you put your energy on. If you concentrate on all things you don't want on all things you don't have enough of that is what you will create more of. Start creating what you do want.

Start with your vision; clearly lay out your life, career, and business vision and then take steps to make it your reality. One of steps might include hiring a coach to make it happen faster for you.

“I don’t get this,” said Paula, “What does this unhappy part of me want me to do?”

“Ask her,” I stated.

Paula asked and answer came. “Our work and all our activities are fine, but I need something deeper. I’ve been wanting you to open to something spiritual, but you haven’t listened to me.”

“I have tried going back to church, but that doesn’t seem to be doing it for me. This does seem to be some kind of spiritual emptiness, but I don’t know what to do about it.”

Paula had never taken time to develop a personal relationship with God. While she believed in a Higher Power, it was something “out there”, not something she connected with and brought into her heart and soul. Her soul was missing sense of deep connection and inner fullness that comes from having a personal relationship with a spirit source of love and guidance, as well as with her own inner feelings. While her children were filling this empty space, she didn’t deal with it, but now that they were gone, it was time to face emptiness that had always been there but had been covered up with mothering.

I asked Paula to close her eyes and imagine a wise and loving spiritual being, perhaps her own highest self, perhaps a relative who had died that she loved, perhaps a religious figure she felt connected with, or an image of a teacher, mentor, or guardian angel. She was able to imagine an angelic Presence that made her feel very loved and safe.

“Now bring love from this Presence into your heart and then down into empty place within. Imagine that you are loving child within in same way you have loved your children, hearing your inner child’s feelings and needs in same way you did with your children. If you also open to learning with this Presence about what is loving to your inner child, and then take loving action for yourself, you will start to fill that emptiness within you. Are you willing to try this?”

Paula was very willing to learn to create deeper connection with Self and with Spirit. She reported to me a few weeks later that she was no longer feeling depressed. Her “empty nest” was now being filled with her inner and spiritual connection.