Let us say, for example, you would like to have more energy in afternoon. Perhaps changing your diet and exercising would be answer. A little meditation or prayer time might also be beneficial.

Developing skills you need to get a promotion at work might entail taking a class or studying on your own. I suggested one of my clients read his materials into an tape recorder so he could listen to them while going from job to job.

Staying in touch with your friends may involve a phone call, a round of golf or a lunch date. How are you going to fit it in? Schedule it to make it a habit. (It is interesting that bad habits are so easy to pick, up isn't it?)

My ten habits include eating five fruits and vegetables a day, exercising, reading Bible, returning phone calls, drinking plenty of water, journaling, and doing a load of laundry every day so it does not pile up.

I do not accomplish all ten habits every day. However, ones I miss I make sure to begin with following day. With this practice, I'm building good habits that take me in direction I want to go in my life. Once any of these habits truly does become a habit, I can drop it off my list of ten and add another activity or behavior that I would like to incorporate into my lifestyle.

The store manager snapped before woman could speak. ‘You ain’t coming in, we're closing.’

‘Tis okay,’ woman said, in broken English. She unfolded a piece of paper and thrust it out to Store Manager. ‘I am looking for Warwick Road. I am lost. Can you help me?’

‘Ain’t got a clue,’ manager shrugged. As I eased through gap between woman, door and store manager, I was appalled by his attitude. He managed a bookstore – surely they stocked a map!

Then I thought… ‘Warwick Road. Warwick Road… I know that road… ‘Where is it? Where is it?’

As moments rushed by, woman disappeared, melding into dark, busy streets of London. Then I remembered A-Z map I had in my hotel bedroom, which was no more than one hundred yards away. I knew I would have to run to catch her up, but as I started to run, something happen.

It all unfolded in my imagination: A woman walking streets in London, approached by a man jogging after her, calling out, ‘I can help. I can help,’ and saying follow me back to my hotel. I have an A-Z map up in my room!’

It didn’t add up.

I stopped dead in my tracks. I let her go. I let her go into darkness of a London night… alone… And this is what happened to me when I got back to my hotel room.

It bothered me that I had not helped woman and I paced floor. It bothered me so much I ended up looking for Warwick Road on A-Z map. I found it, right at end of road my hotel was on… and for that matter where bookstore was located! Right then I spotted bag my new book was in and shook it out and it fell out onto bed… open on a page with a very odd question.

It asked a question. ‘Who are you?’ Immediately I knew why I was so bothered by my inability to help woman. In that moment it all made sense to me. I had become so frustrated because I knew that I could have helped that woman and didn’t. I knew I was here to help people find direction in life. And that realisation led to another…

It really was quite ironic as I thought about events: here I was, supposedly not lost and yet a woman who had admitted to being lost had made me think about my life again. The fact that she had been lost and I had failed to help gave me a wonderful reminder of who I was and what my life path is all about. This woman who claimed to be lost had most definitely given me directions back to who I am; that’s ‘who’ that got lost in all those life issues.

What if every experience in life is sent to you so you can understand who you are and what life is all about? Don’t wait for a death or an accident to realise who you are and what is important to you. Live life now… in every moment!

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