Creating An Effective Personals Ad That Gets Results: Do's and Don'ts

Written by Anna Winters

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Tweaking your profile: If you're gettingrepparttar type of responses you're looking for, great. If you're getting responses fromrepparttar 132194 wrong types of people or not getting as many responses as you'd like, then review your profile and think about how you can improve it and make yourself shine a little bit more. Most matchmaking systems have a place for you to edit your essay and parts of your ad. Take a look at it at least every couple of weeks.

How to search for a new friend: Each matchmaking system has different ways of searching for compatible profiles. Some have several ways. Typically these are MATCH, SEARCH, FIND, and some allow you to make a Search Profile that you can reuse. You can search by location, ideal height and weight, ethnic background -- even by interest in having kids inrepparttar 132195 future.

A high percentage on a multiple choice match is a good start but readrepparttar 132196 answers and look atrepparttar 132197 essay. The percentages may be great but thenrepparttar 132198 profile might be someone who sounds desperate and lonely, is someone just looking for sex or has totally different interests and values.

If there is a photo, look atrepparttar 132199 photo and remember thatrepparttar 132200 photo can be one taken yesterday or 5 years ago. Unlessrepparttar 132201 person is down right unappealing, remember that amateur/family photos don't always make a person look their best. Look for profiles that match your ideal characteristics but also hit yourepparttar 132202 right way -- dorepparttar 132203 writers sound funny? Intellectual? Love animals as much as you do? Like to travel?

Posting Photos: It is up to you to post a photo. You will increase your response rate TEN TIMES by posting a photo. People want to see who they are writing to, and many don't want to start a correspondence and waste time with someone that they don't know if there is even a initial attraction from a photo. If you want a lot of responses, you'd better have a picture. From my experience, and from what I've heard from others, it seems that people who don't have pictures of themselves are usually hiding something. So, if you don't have a picture, people are going to assume you look like a dog. If you are a high profile person inrepparttar 132204 city you live, offer in your profile to exchange photos from your personal (yahoo or hotmail, not your real email address). Make sure you put an accurate description of what you look like in your profile. You may want to say what celebrity you closely resemble.

People who say they don't have a photo or don't have a way to get one on line are either lazy or playing games. If you don't have a scanner at home or work, take a photo to KINKO's (they are everywhere). Have your photo or photos scanned in a .jpg format. Most matchmaking systems do not allow you to sendrepparttar 132205 zip files or unusable formats. Typically .jpg, .gif, and .bmp isrepparttar 132206 limit and they must be sized down. Photos should have a shirt on, clearly show your face (no sunglasses), well lit, no swimwear (except for secondary shots) and no family in your primary photo. Make sure you are smiling inrepparttar 132207 photo. (Who wants to meet someone who looks angry and glum). Many companies allow secondary shots that have your family and friends inrepparttar 132208 photos as long as you are inrepparttar 132209 photo. Don't use a photo in which you're dressed too revealingly -- you want to look elegant and alluring, but a picture of you in a bikini is going to attractrepparttar 132210 wrong kind of responses.

What should you not send? You car, house, boat, photos of your kids or friends by themselves, photos where your face isrepparttar 132211 size of a pencil head, photos with your ex, dark shots, anything revealing, etc. Send your best photos. Remember, FIRST IMPRESSIONS may be your only chance. Your most recent photo of you camping (once in 5 years) withrepparttar 132212 ball cap on may leave arepparttar 132213 impression that you don't want others to have. Again, think in terms of a resume. How would you want an employer to first see you? (Dressed nicely with your hair perfect). Ex. A good mix would be primary photo in a business suit or polo shirt, secondary photo out rock climbing with friends, third photo with two nephews at XMAS.

Out of Town or Unable to Answer email? Members of matchmaking systems expect responses to their emails quickly. If you can't answer emails for a week or two, edit your profile and atrepparttar 132214 top ofrepparttar 132215 essay say "I will be out of town for "x time frame" and will not have access to email. Please ear mark my profile and write me back at "x time frame" and I will be happy to respond when I return." This is especially important duringrepparttar 132216 summer months when people are on vacation and during holidays.

Anna Winters is a writer for, the largest singles groups, singles events and activities website helping 500,000 plus readers monthly find singles events in their city.

Unplug Your Brain from the TV Matrix

Written by Katherine Westphal

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In that sense it is also like a dream. While dreaming, a person cannot tell that they are merely dreaming and their thoughts do not carry intorepparttar ‘real world’. The difference with dreaming and television is that in dreamingrepparttar 132192 dreamer, at least his or her subconscious, is actually in control. With television,repparttar 132193 media and broadcasting companies, and their executives, are in full control - at least, until someone turns offrepparttar 132194 TV.

Furthermore,repparttar 132195 more TV a person watches,repparttar 132196 morerepparttar 132197 logical side ofrepparttar 132198 brain will atrophy. The more a person’s critical thinking atrophies,repparttar 132199 more he or she will lose touch withrepparttar 132200 real world. The more that person loses touch withrepparttar 132201 real world,repparttar 132202 more vulnerable they will be to manipulation andrepparttar 132203 more dependent they will be onrepparttar 132204 television to tell them what to think, do, and say.

So, unplug your brain fromrepparttar 132205 TV. A whole new life awaits you, a real life, a life that you will create. What happens after that is up to you. As Neo says atrepparttar 132206 end of The Matrix, “I’m not here to tell you how this is going to end. I’m here to tell you how it's going to begin”.

Let it begin.

Sources: "Television: Opiate ofrepparttar 132207 Masses" by Wes Moore ( "TV Alters Brainwaves" by Michael Ballard (

Katherine Westphal is the creator of, a website dedicated to helping individuals and families find fun and easy ways to reduce or eliminate TV from their lives. Are you addicted to TV? Take our quiz to find out:

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