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The second aspect is to engage difficult person as though two of you are on same side, and not adversaries at all. Find common ground, and make sure that everything you say relates to that common ground two of you share. Battles of all kinds are all based on differences, not on similarities and commonalities. Salespeople (if they are any good) all know that stressing things you have in common with other person makes that person like you more. Part of active approach to overcoming difficult people is to turn that enemy into a friend. How often do you fight with your friends?
The third aspect of this approach is most difficult, and requires an intimate knowledge of other person's viewpoint. And even if you know for a fact that you know other person's viewpoint inside and out, ask that difficult person to explain what they are thinking. This will do a couple of things for you. One, it will give this person an outlet for their energy. The more they talk, less energy they have to fight with. It also makes them feel as if they have accomplished something. They've gotten their point across.
It will also give you information you need to bring this person around to your way of thinking. There is a great truth that only way to lead a horse to water is one step at a time. You have to start where horse is! The same is true when persuading anyone to do anything. Whether you are trying to persuade your boss to give you a raise, your lover to go along with your plans, your kids to behave as you wish they would, or a difficult person to leave you alone, you always have to start where they are.
There's one more thing that letting difficult person talk could do for you. There is always possibility that you could learn something new. Maybe you had never seen things way this person sees them. Maybe from another perspective, world could be seen as flat, or sun revolves around Earth, or your religion could become more effective in reaching its followers.
Benjamin Franklin, who has been acknowledged as a very wise man by many, learned that there were many times when he was mistaken about certain facts, and that he didn't know everything. If you're honest with yourself, you will find that you are not always right about everything either, right? Of course, this doesn't mean that you have to put up with a difficult person, but it gives you next aspect of active process to overcome them.
Placing a seed of doubt into mind of your difficult person is first step to moving them from where they are now to where you want them to be. They have to admit that they don't know everything, and that they could be mistaken about just about anything. Even if you get no further than this, you can usually convince difficult person to not be so difficult. You want them to start to think that they could be wrong, and that you could be right. Unfortunately, you can't just say this to them, but you need to ask questions that will lead them to this thought.
If you find that you've gotten this far with your difficult person, then you could continue to ask questions (they lead thoughts so much better than flat statements, don't you agree?) that will cause their mind to take one step at a time over to your way of thinking. Just remember that small steps work much better than giant leaps. Any small step that leads them closer to you is good. And also remember that most people resist any change; so don't expect a complete reversal within minutes.
The only other thing I can say here in this short article is that those in Keys To Power system learn even more methods which help change other people's thinking and behavior. And they learn methods of keeping difficult people out of their lives completely, so they never have to overcome them in first place.
I hope that I have given you some new tools to use in making your life easier. Use them with joy, and with Power!
Alan Tutt is the creator of the phenomenally popular Keys To Power Mastery System available from http://www.KeysToPower.com. Become the Arnold Schwarzenegger of Mind Power using the Keys To Power Mastery System, and get everything you want in life.