Coping With Divorce Anger

Written by Tracy Achen

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Perspective Knowing what part he played inrepparttar problems is easy, but you also need to recognize how you contributed. Owning up to responsibility is probablyrepparttar 148864 hardest part.

Most women grew up withrepparttar 148865 image ofrepparttar 148866 “White Knight” who rides in and takes charge. The princess falls in love and stands behind her man. The only problem is that this fairy tale usually doesn’t have a happy ending becauserepparttar 148867 power of choice is removed. You are swept through life by circumstances and decisions of others.

If you can own up to your participation inrepparttar 148868 marriage, you have gained power. For example, by admitting that you stayed in a bad marriage for economic reasons, you therefore, can choose to find a good paying job and leave. When your perspective is one of choice, you gain power and control over your life.

Admitting that you put up with a bad situation out of choice allows you now to make decisions to do things differently in your new life. Once you accept responsibility for your life, be careful to not turn your anger inward. You didrepparttar 148869 best you could in your given situation. It's inrepparttar 148870 past, and you now haverepparttar 148871 power to move forward. Releaserepparttar 148872 hold that anger has over helps you to regain control over your life again. You no longer need to feel like a victim, and your self esteem will begin to rise.

Tracy Achen is the author of "DIVORCE 101: A Woman's Guide to Divorce", and publisher of a website to help women cope with divorce. At we have one focus – helping women survive their divorce and rebuild their lives. For additional articles and information on divorce, visit the web site at

To Invite or not to Invite the Dad to the Shower

Written by Randy Wilson

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For many reasons,repparttar couple’s shower (where men and women both are invited) is an appropriate way to celebrate a new baby.

First,repparttar 148834 new daddy has as much reason to celebrate and to be congratulated asrepparttar 148835 mom-to-be. Second, daddy may enjoy openingrepparttar 148836 presents as much as mom, maybe more so. Thirdly, ifrepparttar 148837 baby shower isn't held at their home, mommy will need dad to help load uprepparttar 148838 presents and drive her home. After all, she hasn't hadrepparttar 148839 baby yet, and will probably be pretty tired byrepparttar 148840 end ofrepparttar 148841 baby shower.

While this may be a new tradition, some men may actually enjoyrepparttar 148842 baby shower as much asrepparttar 148843 women. Although I doubt that most fathers-to-be would ever admit it to anyone, dad has to keep up that "macho" image after all.

It would be a nice touch to include gifts that are special for dad. Even thoughrepparttar 148844 gifts are usually gifts forrepparttar 148845 baby, andrepparttar 148846 occassional gift forrepparttar 148847 mom, dad wouldn't mind one or two for himself. Just don't let on that you know that. Let him keep his pride.

Generally, anyone who was invited torepparttar 148848 wedding can be invited torepparttar 148849 baby shower. Remember, this is a joyous celebration and you should spread joy, blessings and happiness to everyone that has an interest inrepparttar 148850 family.

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Randy has dozens more baby shower related articles such as Baby Shower Invitations and Baby Shower Games. Also has a blog: Baby Shower Planning.

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