Like my business partner Cameron Teone always used to say- it is like scene in Matrix where Neo must jump across buildings. He can't do it until he truly believes. Well, I am telling you to believe in yourself and knock over attraction glass. You DON'T need it. It is a theory born from insecurity.

All you need is rapport: confident rapport. So what’s difference between insecure rapport and confident rapport? It comes down to your inner beliefs. Do you believe she's going to listen and like what you have to say about yourself. You should. In fact she should be hanging on every word you say because you believe she needs you. If you have that inch of doubt, that means you believe she isn't ATTRACTED to you, and you need to build attraction then. But what if you didn't have that doubt? Girls can smell confidence, and they can definitely detect any insecurity. They will see confidence you have in yourself when you are straight forward and you just assume they will like you. And they WILL respond positively. Remember an inch of doubt and you're dead in water.

The next big question is how can I get this confidence? Well... see us at a workshop.

Seth Parker

Make your happiness and peace of mind your number one priority. Once you have that you have power to really affect change. Helping others is a wonderful thing. Look at global efforts to help Tsunami victims and affected areas. You could rationalize it and say that helping is right thing to do, that contributing to any good cause is right thing to do. I agree.

But, we are not motivated by our intellect or rationalizations. It is emotion that moves us to act. Helping out makes us feel good and inversely we know that watching others suffer and not helping when we know we can will make us feel miserable. We don' t want to make ourselves unhappy.

If you can truly be honest with yourself you will see that beneath all sentiment is a need to tend to our own happiness. I like to volunteer because it makes me feel good. That is bottom line. The rest is just window-dressing. I have a selfish desire to feel good and so do you. There is nothing wrong with that.

Yoga, meditation and prayer make me feel good, too. Can you call those selfish pursuits? How about attending church or worshipping your higher power? Do those things make you feel good? Of course they do or you would not do them. If pursuing your own emotional well-being and feeling good is not what you would consider selfish, than I think that term "selfish" is highly misunderstood.

Tend to your "self" first. Be selfish. Then and only then can you really make a difference.

- David Parton 2005

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Helping others and myself Improve their income and boost their health and energy levels with Tahitian Noni Juice.