Confidence is Cool

Written by Oscar Bruce


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What radical transformation, then, would it take to reshape a shy person into an extroverted, socially adept one? Where can you learn to meet and greet any and all encounters skillfully and with confidence?

First, realize that advanced language skills are but subtle elaborations or enhancement of what we already know and do, yet of a somewhat higher order. Additional examples include listening, picking up on nonverbal cues, and having a sense ofrepparttar other individual's personal space. Finally,repparttar 107921 high-arts: being able to start a conversation with a total stranger, knowing when to wait and when to act.

IT IS OUR NATURE as human beings to seek affiliation, to make friends. But sometimes it can be hard for a person to reach out and create conversation. Most people want to like, want to love, want to connect, but they are afraid. Things get inrepparttar 107922 way of their innate desire; things like FEAR OF REJECTION or uncertainty about WHAT TO SAY FIRST.

The start of a great relationships begins with "a great opening line." It is knowing what to say first and how to sustainrepparttar 107923 conversation that gets attention and BUILDS CONFIDENCE.

TRUE AND LASTING PERSONAL CONFIDENCE flows fromrepparttar 107924 knowledge and certainty that you will function skillfully and convincingly while at ease, in all social or business encounters. What helps shapes your fate is your ability to stand your ground in any confrontation -repparttar 107925 knowledge that you will always prevail.

Self-confidence will also grow as you depend less on fortuitous happenstance, on wishing and hoping - and realize that you can make your choices and actions a consequence of clarity of purpose. You will become a stronger person as you see yourself acquiring and applying new language skills.

Total confidence is primarily rooted in possessingrepparttar 107926 verbal skills of capturing control of conversations and confrontations. It is simply a matter of knowing what to say and exactly how to say it to getrepparttar 107927 desired results. This is whatrepparttar 107928 Oscar Bruce publications will put into your life.

********************************************************** Oscar Bruce is consideredrepparttar 107929 ultimate personal communications guru. His dynamic books are field manuals for mastering conversation and confrontations. His website offers several verbal strategies that can add power to your conversations at no cost. HIS FREE NEWSLETTER is available at http://www.oscarbruce.com Products: http://future-world.com/cgi-bin/product/30302/6017

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Is Silence Really Golden?

Written by Oscar Bruce


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YET LISTENING IS THE FORGOTTEN ART.

Don't you find it fascinating that some people have allrepparttar answers before they've heardrepparttar 107920 question? Most people do not listen withrepparttar 107921 intent to understand - they listen withrepparttar 107922 intent to reply. The first rule of skillful listening is - Don't start thinking about your reply beforerepparttar 107923 other person has exhausted their entire view or feelings.

Most people try to be interesting when they should be interested. The truly successful communicator is a curious person. They want to know more about what other people think and feel. They are truly fascinated by what other people can share with them.

HOW TO MAKE PEOPLE FEEL YOU UNDERSTAND:

Userepparttar 107924 following "perception checking" questions. Try this exercise with a friend or someone you trust.

Person 1 Start talking about any subject for 4 or 5 sentences. Person 2 Whenrepparttar 107925 first person stops talking, repeat back to them what you thought you heard, starting with phrases like: I want to be sure I understand what you are saying. It sounds like . . . What I hear you saying, if I understand you correctly is . . . I want to make sure I am hearing what you are saying . . .

People like people who make them feel special. Listening to a person makes them feel special. When you make them feel special, they then view you as special. This causes their interest in you, your dreams and goals to increase dramatically. They become more willing to help you achieve your goals and objectives.

SOMETIMES DREAMS NEED A LITTLE HELP

Let's face it, in America one can achieve just about any dream. But, sometimes a dream needs a little help from others. The cooperation you need from others will be in direct relation to your willingness to listen torepparttar 107926 story of their own dreams and ambitions.

******************************** Question or Comment? E-mail ( oscar1@moment.net ) Oscar Bruce's concepts are widely known for helping people learn to share their dreams and ambitions, clearly and persuasively. His FREE NEWSLETTER is available at http://www.oscarbruce.com

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Oscar Bruce's concepts are widely known for helping people learn to share their dreams and ambitions, clearly and persuasively. His FREE NEWSLETTER is available at http://www.oscarbruce.com


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