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PETER:
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mad rush to get ahead very often most important people in our lives donīt always get our full attention. How can we make sure we really listen and value little time we do have with family and friends?
JOHN:
This is a real key question for many of us. I think many of us focus on allowing new things into our life; more money, more romance, more fun, more friends. But I think it's equally important for us to recognize what we allow into our life that prevents us from having time we desire for people we value most.
Ultimately, each of us must look at our motivations for engaging in "mad rush to get ahead". We each learn models of being in order to create results and we conform to them out of our desire for approval. But, I think we all know people who work hard and never get ahead. So is working hard answer?
Having anything you desire truly is effortless, when you release it. For me, releasing creates so many opportunities and alternatives. When I let go, I let go of lack and limitation. In its place abundance appears.
My favorite quote from Lester Levenson is "Any complexity in life is ego trying to undo simplicity of reality." Lack is a creation, a mental concept. Whether that lack be time, money, love, or whatever. Lack is a problem we have created, like all problems.
PETER:
5 In workplace how we express ourselves has a major impact on how we are perceived by our peers. How can we communicate in a way that creates a favorable impression that reflects our contribution to business?
JOHN:
If our ultimate goal is "Happiness without sorrow", then I think we first need to release on our desire for creating that "favorable impression". At best, that is only a guess regarding what other person might want. And, it creates a limitation for us that restricts our energy, our best ideas, and real contribution we can be to business.
Early in my career, seeking to be a "people pleaser" was one of my biggest blocks. Learning to let go of wanting my peer's approval has freed me to put forth my ideas - both "good" and "bad". And, sometimes those "bad" ideas serve to ignite great ones. It also lead me out of situations and work that were not necessarily best match for who I am.
Second, releasing on our desire for control and security allows us to stay open to ideas and input of others. When we do this, we expand our consciousness to include not just our own thoughts, but we also gain incredible leverage from ideas of others. Even people who challenge us can become allies, especially when we recognize why they challenge us. These challenges are a real asset when we recognize they are highlighting our blocks to real growth.
On this note, sometimes our greatest contribution to a business can be our ability to make others feel comfortable by creating an environment they can thrive in. Some people might call a person able to do this a leader. So often, workplace is a breeding ground for fear, competition and insecurities. If this ever brings out best in people, it is short-term. Sooner or later, people burn out in these conditions. Releasing these limiting feelings increases productivity and positive results throughout a business in countless ways.
PETER:
Thank you very much John for taking time to answer my questions today. You offered some great insights and novel ways of dealing with challenging people situations.
John:
You are very welcome Peter. I hope readers find what I had to say of interest.
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