Coming of Age: Part 1Written by Dr. Dorree Lynn
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We are not aging as our parents did, and many of us we are unwilling to simply get old and become useless, to be put out to pasture until we die. The truth is slowly and subtly dawning on our society that life today includes a new age. There was a time when people who had gone through childhood, adolescence, and "productive years" of adulthood came rather abruptly upon old age, or at best what we call senior years. But now, we are discovering a time in-between, truly a new age. Writers, theoreticians, and philosophers are fumbling in dark trying to name this period. Metaphorically speaking, they are under covers, periodically letting their feet hit floor to carry them beyond safety of their past to grope, fumble, and reach towards an understanding of love and sex for a new population in new millennium. A half-century is no longer so very old. A new paradigm is in making and we are re-learning to develop it as we confront our new challenges. As sexuality wanes, sensuality gains. Perhaps, instead of retirement, we will now call it re-firement. Let us learn to live as we are coming to be. Life is too hard to do alone, Dr. D. Dorree Lynn, PH.D.
Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.
| | Is It A Crisis Or Does It Just Feel Like OneWritten by Dr. Dorree Lynn
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Many events that feel like a crisis can be handled with time or may propel you to seek help. For example, your long term lover has suddenly walked out, school has called to inform you that your child has Attention Deficit Disorder (ADD), your sister calls to tell you that she thinks you have never loved her, your boss has reneged on promotion he promised you, your spouse wants a divorce, or your father is ill and dying. Again, I urge you to remember that these are not crises, they only feel that way. The sense of intolerable pain can usually be tolerated long enough to evaluate your feelings and determine whether or not you need help. You need time to sort out what you feel, what is real, what you can or should do, and, possibly, your portion of responsibility in these events. Very little must be done in moment. Often a little extra time in short-term can avoid long-term mistakes. Life is too hard to do alone, Dr. D. Dorree Lynn, PH.D.
Dr. Dorree Lynn is co-founder of the Institute for the Advanced Study of Psychotherapy and a practicing clinician in New York and Washington, DC. Dr. Lynn served on the executive board of the American Academy of Psychotherapists and she is on the editorial board of their publication, Voices. She is also a regular columnist for the Washington, DC newspaper, The Georgetowner. Dr. Lynn is a noted speaker and well known on the lecture circuit.
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